The lie: sex equals making love
The truth: fully shared sexual pleasure equals making love. Fully shared sexual pleasure makes the most important and intimate form of love occur between a couple. It happens seldom enough. With coitus, it happens even less often and therein lies the problem.
Do you know, I have searched high and low for fifteen years to say those words as simply as that.
Do you see all of the implications? It states that any form of mutual fully shared sexual pleasure meets the criteria. It also puts the burden where it belongs, on the forms of sexual pleasure that have nothing to do with the woman's pleasure. It is clearly a dumb animal concept that has continued only due to fear and inertia of the animal. It also fits in with the key, crucial point that coitus doesn't fulfill love in most cases. We ignore the single most important act of life on which most relationships are built, mostly because of its effects on the male gender. Men tend to go berserk when confronted with the truth. It has stunted their development into Humans. We wrongly convinced ourselves that coitus can't exist in a human form. Taking a pill to keep it up is not a human form.
This is where all of the mad desires stem from. Men have been stunted for three millennia. Any man, for the last three millennia could have succeeded at loving coitus, if they only knew how easy it was to sidestep the failure of the animal. We could never admit it because the man could never figure it out. It caused an instilled laziness. From seeking leisure over activity to ED pills to dominating others into doing all the work, it all stems from men being forced to hide due to the awful state of coitus that only men can resolve.
It is no more difficult than walking on two legs or talking. All we have to do with put away the paradigms of nonsense.
That coitus remains a failure tells you everything you need to know about the madness infecting mankind. Men put on a show of how 'masculine' they are because they know damn well they are failing at the very essence of manhood.
The desire for domination, the desire to bring women under their thumb and contention between men 'to be on top of the heap' is all sourced by their failed manhood that, in a fully evolved sentient race, would be absent.
Future generations, when they look back on the last three millennia, will finally be able to look at the prehuman as just another beast from our past, like Neanderthal or Cro-Magnon.
Basically, this is the state of Humanity that has been waiting three millennia to emerge. Until the male gender learns they can master the most important event in life, they will continue to desire the mad control of everything else in sight.
It only takes a few to set things awry, but it took the whole male gender to set the madness free.
In every aspect, it has always been a battle between the animal and the Human.