1. We are completely dependent on coitus (sexual intercourse) for our existence. Without it, we become extinct.
2. No one, man nor woman, is satisfied with the selfish results of the act of coitus when the ecstasy is not mutual. Oh, yes! Men are relieved but not satisfied if it is not mutual. Only a male animal would be satisfied. A male human is confounded. There is no reason for it to remain so.
The two genders suffer to similar extents but in vastly different ways because of this anomaly to human life.
3. Early humans became convinced we could do no better than an animal at coitus. Mutual coital satisfaction was not even conceivable when we first attained our sentient state. The belief became embedded that there was nothing to be done.
4. The prehumans of long ago had no experience, knowledge, or insights regarding improving an act that had been based in the animal's instinctual reaction for hundreds of millions of years. Premises 1, 2, & 3 confounded them. They did not have the wherewithal to cope. They had no knowledge, yet, to bring to bear. So they buried the whole issue beneath paradigms of nonsense which have been passed along, generation by generation. Excuses.
Because of coitus' crucial function, we couldn't stop. Because of our sentient awareness, we could not let it rest. The sense that coitus could be something more has never gone away. With each generation, the rebellion continues and will until we become Human. Our sentience will not let us avoid the issue and previous generations' assurances that "we are only human" are not accepted until the latest generation surrenders, never realizing that our animal past has impeded its very investigation at a phenomenal level. The stupoured state of the animal would not let us succeed. Until now.
We buried the truth in the subconscious where it has festered. Instead, we create pills rather than fulfill our sentient state. That is nothing short of insane.
The simple fact is that, like it or not, coitus must continue or we do not. That, combined with sentient awareness of the imbalanced, frustrating situation without achieving resolution bent our brains like a pretzel.
5. Being sentient and human, we know better.
We know that the human race is not just an animal. We know we should be able to do better than an animal. (We can; I did; see "Explanations")
Unassisted loving coitus (shared ecstasy) needs to become an expectation, just as walking on two legs and talking are. It's that easy, once we rid ourselves of relying on the animal's instincts. It is the next step in attaining our Humanity.
6. Sentient conscious awareness changed everything. It made us aware of what was missing. It also made us aware that it should not be missing. It put the two sentiently aware genders at odds with each other and our animal legacy at odds with our sentient aspirations, capabilities, and conscious awareness.
7. Nature provided everything a human male needs to transform coitus into a consistently loving act. As I delve deeper, it is so simple that it would be amazing that it was never discovered before, if it weren't for the brain interruptus during ecstasy. The man takes and woman gives. That is learned in bed. It continues to stunt our development. Selfish results force the stupour to remain.
A man can be master of his own body. We have just never applied our sentience awareness to the issue because we could not tolerate the failure and awareness, simultaneously. One had to go. Since failure was beyond previous generations to overcome, awareness was sacrificed.
8. We created the word love, because our sentience sensed it. We were left to our own devices to create the circumstances to fulfill it. Nature gave us all that was required and left it to us. Lately, we have become increasingly convinced that love is only gibberish. We have always underestimated love.
Love starts with physical love. While we call anything involving sex, "making love", it is only mutual ecstasy that suits the term.
9. Because of the inertia of the animal and self-inflicted obstructions, it became nearly impossible for the male human to contemplate the situation at all, much less realize they are not constrained by the same limitations as animals when it comes to the act of coitus. We became caught in a rut of many dimensions. Men will succeed with ease, once our sentience has a chance to clear away the cobwebs. We have been immersed in a delusion for three thousand years.
10. Men remain constrained by preconceptions that lead them to fail by treating the event as an animal would. Once free of the misconceptions, men will find they can succeed with ease.
11. The existing situation renders the male gender, in particular, mad (the female gender gets there by exposure to the madness of the other half of the human race over the last three millennia). Sorry, guys, but you really need to admit this to yourself.
It's not like men enjoy going mad over a lifetime as they repeatedly fail to express their love.
For a sentient race, there can be so much more to coitus and we know it. It can become a loving act, not just the rutting of animals. Until that happens, love will continue to corrode into lust, perversions, distrust, delusions, obsessions, aberrations, outright lies, madness, mass destruction, and self-destruction.
The physical act of sharing love in a decisively human way initiates the loving, sentient state. Coitus is the crucial act that fulfills our existence in a way that animals could never even dream.
It is not utopia. It is just no longer dystopia. It is Human.
We have clung to the outdated concepts of the animal for far too long.
Coitus is stripped bare of all of its tremendous and essential human potential every time it ends all too soon, which is the most common case. Loving coitus is human.
The biggest irony of all is how easy it is for a man to succeed. That is, any human, thinking male. The male gender is so certain of failure that it has never accepted the concept that they can succeed. Their perspective remained too close to an animal's instincts and pretext.
To summarize: we cannot live in a sentient manner while coitus remains in its animal rendition and we certainly cannot exist without coitus. We remain caught within the bizarre world of the animal's stupour, far from the magnificent existence that a sentient, loving landscape can provide.
The phrase "we are only human" says it all. It is the most offensive phrase ever created and, so far, we deserve it. To state it accurately, though, would be to say "we are only prehuman." I look forward to the day that we say, "Omigoodness, we are Human!"
A race was born with far too much intellect and capability for an animal's circumstances, along with an ongoing and increasing bent towards emotional upheaval until they fulfill its cornerstone.
The race was given the key to exceed the expectations of the animal, succeed at life, put away the stupour of the animal, end the ceaseless and stupid fighting, and become a loving, balanced, rational, emotionally stable, human, sentient race. No dystopia.