Uncanny

1. We are completely dependent on coitus (sexual intercourse) for our existence.  Without it, we become extinct.

2. For at least three millennia, the sentient race that is human, with its heightened awareness, has known that there is more to coitus.  No one, man nor woman, is satisfied with the selfish results of the act of coitus when the ecstasy is not mutual.  Oh, yes!  Men are relieved but not satisfied if it is not mutual.  Only a male animal would be satisfied.   A male human is confounded.  There is no reason for it to remain so. 

The two genders suffer to similar extents but in vastly different ways because of this anomaly to human life. 

3.  Early humans became convinced we could do no better than an animal at coitus.  Mutual coital satisfaction was not even conceivable when we first attained our sentient state.  The belief became embedded that there was nothing to be done.

4. The prehumans of long ago had no experience, knowledge, or insights regarding improving an act that had been based in the animal's instinctual reaction for hundreds of millions of years.  Premises 1, 2, & 3 confounded them.  They did not have the wherewithal to cope.  They had no knowledge, yet, to bring to bear.  So they buried the whole issue beneath paradigms of nonsense which have been passed along, generation by generation.  Excuses.  Avoiding clarity drives a sentient race mad.

     Because of coitus' crucial function, we couldn't stop.  Because of our sentient awareness, we could not let it rest.

The simple fact is that, like it or not, coitus must continue or we do not.  That, combined with sentient awareness of the imbalanced, frustrating situation without achieving resolution bent our brains like a pretzel.

5. Being sentient and human, we know better.  

We know that the human race is not just an animal.  We know we should be able to do better than an animal.   (We can; I did; see "Explanations")  

Unassisted loving coitus (shared ecstasy) needs to become an expectation, just as walking on two legs and talking are.  It's that easy, once we rid ourselves of relying on the animal's instincts.  It is the next step in attaining our Humanity.  Nature, (or, god, if you prefer) did not create us to act like a witless animal.

6. Nature provided everything a human male needs to transform coitus into a consistently loving act.  A man can be master of his own body.

7.  We have only avoided developing Loving Coitus due to reinforcement of the stupour by our ancestors.  Since failure was beyond previous generations to overcome, our sentient awareness was sacrificed.  We have avoided seeking clarity in all things because of this oversight.

8.  We created the word love and the words for noble qualities, because our sentience sensed them.  We were left to our own devices to create the circumstances to fulfill them.  Nature gave us all that was required and left it to us.  Lately, we have become increasingly convinced that love is only gibberish.  We have always underestimated love.  While we call anything involving sex, "making love", it is only mutual ecstasy that suits the term.

9. Men remain constrained by preconceptions provided by our animal past that lead them to fail.  Once free of the misconceptions, men will find they can succeed with ease.

10.  The existing situation renders the male gender, in particular, mad (the female gender gets there by exposure to the madness of the other half of the human race over the last three millennia).   Sorry, guys, but you really need to admit this to yourself.

It's not like men enjoy going mad over a lifetime as they repeatedly fail to express their love.  They have just been caught in a trap of initial conditions from which they can free themselves.

For a sentient race, there can be so much more to coitus and we know it.  It can become a loving act, not just the rutting of animals.  Until that happens, love will continue to corrode into lust, perversions, distrust, delusions, obsessions, aberrations, outright lies, madness, mass destruction, and self-destruction. 

The physical act of sharing love in a decisively human way initiates the loving, sentient state.  Coitus is the crucial act that fulfills our existence in a way that animals could never even dream.

It is not utopia.  It is just no longer dystopia.  It is Human, not prehuman.

The biggest irony of all is how easy it is for a man to succeed.  That is, any human, thinking male.  The male gender is so certain of failure that it has never accepted the concept that they can succeed.

To summarize: we cannot live in a sentient manner while coitus remains in its animal rendition and we certainly cannot exist without coitus.  We remain caught at the border of the bizarre world of the animal's stupour, far from the magnificent existence that a sentient, loving landscape can provide.

The phrase "we are only human" says it all.  It is the most offensive phrase ever created and, so far, we deserve it.  To state it accurately, though, would be to say "we are only prehuman."  I look forward to the day that we say, "Omigoodness, we are Human!"

The Human race was given the key to exceed the expectations of the animal, succeed at life, put away the stupour of the animal, end the ceaseless and stupid fighting, and become a loving, balanced, rational, emotionally stable, human, sentient race.  No dystopia.