Further Attempts At Clarification

There are two desires when it comes to coitus, for a human.  Please oneself and please one's mate.  So far, throughout every sex-based life-form before humanity, the two desires never converged in a couple during coiuts.  One gains their own pleasure or their mate's pleasure.  That is fine for witless animals.  It drives human, sentient beings crazy.  We know better.
For humanity, the first species that can think things through, mindless rutting could never work well.  The thought has been grinding away at humanity since our first sentient thought.  It is obvious to anyone with a thought in their head that men should be able to conquer this last frontier, as a gender, not just this or that individual.

    That is another part of what drives men crazy.  They know better.

Man takes, woman gives.  The training begins in bed.  It defines our existence.  It is a disaster and it doesn't need to remain that way.  

        Man takes, woman gives is no way for a human race to be acting.