Thinking it through

Thinking it through

We have yet to admit what sentience entails.  

Our emotional state can mature.  Yet, it hasn't.  We can think.  Yet, we don't.  

When it comes to coitus we haven't thought at all; and the topic of sex, in general, is a confused mess of misdirection and entrenched positions.  

In the same vein, we have yet to admit what love entails.

  A race that lives and dies by coitus will breathe a sigh of relief, once coitus suits our humanity.  Those that have blindly defended coitus in the absence of mutual ecstasy will no longer harass those that decide to find some other way to achieve the life-altering, mutually transcendent experience of sharing that remains virtually unknown for coitus.  The defense of the act of coitus will no longer be necessary once it becomes an act that provides for sharing the loving engagement and ecstasy.  It can stand equal with any other form of sex.

     One of the worst obstructions is the back and forth regarding other forms of sex that goes nowhere.  It is so close to the source of the problem that we have fixed phrases and mindsets rather than thinking it through.  Everyone is defending their choice.  We just don't want to think it through because of where it leads: coitus.  Anything remotely related to the subject of sex is taboo because it all links back to the state of coitus not fulfilling the promise of mutual climax that a sentient race, of course, expects.  There is no blocking the realization, even as hard as we try.  Coitus is not attaining humanity's expectations.  We know we can transform it from the rutting of an animal but we block it out.  It was too difficult for our ancient ancestors and no one has given it a second thought in three millennia.  Our thinking has been obstructed, short-circuited, derailed from any thoughts that range anywhere near the subject of coitus.

Of course, the mania spread from coitus into every other aspect of our existence.  How could it not? 

    No one reads between the lines of those conversations, shouting matches, and paralyzed positions regarding sex.  What is everyone really fighting about when fighting about sex?  The one subject that is most important is always off the table for discussion: coitus.  We cannot speak rationally about it.  Everyone does their best to purge from their minds the seemingly hopeless knot that coitus represents rather than think it through, much less discuss it.  It is a gaping hole in our sentient perspective.  Of late, we have broken through and begun to discuss all of the other forms of sex, to our constant dismay, but coitus never enters the conversation.

[Men need to learn to love a woman <> they cannot learn to love a woman] is the endless circle that leads nowhere, until one realizes that there is no reason that men can't learn to make coitus an unassisted loving act.  Then, the circle is broken.  Finally.  

There is no doubt.  Some, though not all, choose alternate sexual orientations because of this dilemma.  They desire to provide pleasure as well as receive it.

Once Loving Coitus becomes an available choice for everyone, then it no longer matters what choice any two people make.  The choice is not a choice until Loving Coitus exists.

We are not just some stupid animal without redress for the animal instincts that cause stupoured animals to fail at making coitus something more than rutting.  We have the capability to think it through.  We have the capability to succeed - consistently.  We have everything it takes, from the realization that coitus has so much more to offer than the animal rendition of rutting, to the sentient comprehension of the instincts of the animal, to the simple muscle control and mastery required to make coitus a successful act of love.

Men have been trained to fail for millennia and the male animal for a billion years before that.  Animals accept failure.  We do not.  We cannot accept failure and, yet, we do.  Whether we want to admit it or not, we are not built to accept failure.  Men know they should be able to do better.  They can  They have tried everything within the restrictions inherent in the instincts of the animal.  They have never comprehended (as a gender) that the instincts can be easily circumvented by a sentient mind.  They gave up because they never got beyond the strictures of the animal while being inundated with paradigms of nonsense that spiraled into a hopeless whirlpool of failure, confusion and self-deceit long ago.  

We're smarter than that.  Take a close look at the instincts that drive the quick conclusion and the answer becomes glaringly apparent.  I have written alot about all of this throughout the books.  There is plenty of evidence of men's ability to succeed.  Almost any man alive has experienced it in one uncomfortable form.  I have summarized it as best I can in two posts but there are a lot of other insights that led to the summary.  I am sure there is, also, far more to discover.

For an animal, it is enough that coitus produces babies.  It is not enough for a race whose awareness tells them there's so much more to the act, beginning with mutual ecstasy and ending with a loving intimate relationship that can last and flourish.  That begins to open the vista on our Humanity.  Call it an advanced form of caring, if you please.

I get so irritated when someone says, "god made us that way".  It is so utterly stupid.  We were made with the desire to love and the ability to make it happen.  We have yet to do so.  See Aristotle's quote in Aphorisms.  We were also made to talk and walk on two legs.  We have learned to walk on two legs and talk.  We learn to ride a bike and a million other things.

It is just that our thinking on the subject of coitus was shut down long ago.  The pressure to not think about coitus has affected everything regarding the subject.  The researchers even take it for granted that there is nothing to be done because "god made us that way."  How stupid we have been.

Consideration of coitus is virtually nonexistent during all of back and forth hate regarding other forms of mutual ecstasy.  We do our best to think of the most incredible act as something to be purged from our brain.  We curse sex because its most natural form, coitus, is found wanting.  It doesn't need to be. We do not celebrate what should be a transcendent experience for both because we have yet to share that experience without fail and have cursed the lack for three millennia.

"The act by which humanity lives and dies is not up to snuff for a sentient race and there's nothing to be done about it" is the conclusion that broke the back of our Humanity.  The most incredible, remarkable, amazing, celebratory, ecstatic act of existence for a sentient couple and we swept it under the rug rather than continue to face the struggle to succeed.  Religions continue to curse it.  We remain filled with shame regarding coitus and live by that shame.  We sold ourselves short.

    Which side will you take?  Coitus is essential to the survival of the race, so ignore it and continue to rut like animals and, thereby, remain an animal concerning the most important difference: love?  Or, is it everyone's right to experience orgasm, however it is done?  The two thoughts will remain inconsistent and confrontational until we consider coitus from a Human point of view.  

The one act that breeds life does not fulfill the loving potential that any sentient being knows is available.  Without the loving potential becoming fulfilled, we remain a mad animal.  The race of humanity has never admitted to itself that the loving potential of coitus is available for all of a sentient race.

Coitus is accepted as only for making babies.   Our insane simplification of the situation was bred in stupour.  Most of what we espouse is bred in stupour.

    We cannot manufacture, fabricate our way out of the the predicament.  No pill is a substitute for men's humanity or manhood.  The pill is just another form of defeat of the Human. 

It is nothing more than sentient to make unassisted Loving Coitus work as a Human expects.  It can.  The evidence and proof is beyond doubt.

Realizing that we can do something so important on our own, without props, transforms us.  We will no longer remain a scared, dumbfounded child looking around and wondering what happened as we cross the threshold of puberty.

It is just such a weird situation.  Men are scared down to their roots to confront the problem.  Men have always feared the confirmation that it is hopeless, so they just don't want to talk about it.  So, no one ever looked with the full force of their Humanity.  Do you see how confused that is?  Do you see how it stunted our thinking?  Everything in our history tells men that it is too big of a challenge.  That is the animal talking.  The animal's take on coitus has dominated the conversation since the beginning.  We haven't begun to bring our sentience to bear on the problem.  

Well, you haven't.  After tearing down the walls of obstruction, it was pretty easy to begin to see the way through.  It will grow even easier, once men become convinced they can succeed at making coitus human and loving.  The biggest barrier is the fear to try.

    There is no right answer about our existence until loving, mutual pleasure is the expectation for coitus.  It releases the advanced form of caring that we call love.  Right now, humanity is essentially saying, 'we are not sentient or loving' by continuing to act like coitus has no chance of becoming an unassisted loving act.  Loving coitus is a sentient act. One could say it is the initiating act of fulfilling our sentient state. It is certainly the initiating act for humanity to become a rational, loving race.  All roads that lead to sentience and a loving state remain closed as long as we cannot realize that the most natural act of creation can also become the most important expression of love between a couple and is essential to fulfilling the concept of love for a sentient race.  

It has been right there in front of us all along.  We know what's missing but have never convinced ourselves that we can be masters of our own bodies.  We are not witless animals.  Love is real.  It's as tangible as an orgasm when the orgasm is shared.  Love exists in a frail, fragile, shadowy form, right now.  That has to change.

    I was reading an aphorism the other day that says it well.  When will the power of love overcome the love of power?  When we finally enable men's self-respect to remain extant throughout a lifetime, thus fulfilling the love and noble qualities that come with our sentient state, by succeeding at making coitus a loving Human act.  Then we will truly become Human.  Then, love will be truly fulfilled.