Thinking it through
We have yet to admit what sentience entails. We can think. Yet, we don't. When it comes to coitus we haven't thought at all; and the topic of sex, in general, is a confused mess of misdirection and entrenched positions.
In the same vein, we have yet to admit what love entails.
There will be a sigh of relief by a race that lives and dies by coitus, once it suits our humanity. Those that have blindly defended coitus in the absence of mutual ecstasy will no longer harass those that decide to find some other way to achieve the life-altering, mutually transcendent experience that remains virtually unknown for coitus. They will no longer have be defensive regarding the act of coitus when it no longer fails the human expectation of the loving engagement and ecstasy being shared by both that everyone desires.
One of the worst obstructions is the back and forth regarding other forms of sex that goes nowhere. It is so close to the source of the problem that we have set fixed phrases and mindsets. Anything remotely related to coitus is a taboo subject. So, we never think it through. All because coitus is not attaining humanity's expectations.
Of course, the mania spread into every other aspect of our existence. How could it not?
No one has read between the lines of those conversations, shouting matches, and paralyzed positions regarding sex. What is everyone really fighting about when fighting about sex? No one mentions coitus during that standoff. Everyone does their best to purge from their minds the seemingly hopeless knot that coitus represents.
[Men need to learn to love a woman <> they cannot learn to love a woman] is the endless circle that leads nowhere, until one realizes that there is no reason that men can't learn to make coitus an unassisted loving act. We are not just some stupid animal without redress for the animal instincts that make them fail to make coitus something more.
It is only that men have been trained to fail for millennia and male animals for a billion years before that. Animals accept failure. We do not. Men know they should be able to do better. They have tried everything that the instincts of the animal allowed and suggested. They gave up because they never got beyond the strictures of the animal while being inundated with the paradigms of nonsense spiraling into a hopeless whirlpool of failure.
We're smarter than that. Take a close look at the instincts that drive the quick conclusion and the answer becomes glaringly apparent.
For an animal, it is enough that coitus produces babies. It is not enough for a race whose awareness tells them there's so much more to the act, beginning with mutual ecstasy and ending with a loving intimate relationship.
Consideration of coitus is virtually nonexistent during all of back and forth hate regarding other forms of mutual ecstasy. We do our best to think of the most incredible act as something to be purged from our brain.
"The act by which humanity lives and dies is not up to snuff for a sentient race and there's nothing to be done about it" is the conclusion that broke humanity. The most incredible, remarkable, amazing, celebratory, ecstatic act of existence for a sentient couple and we swept it under the rug. We remain filled with shame regarding coitus and live by that shame. We sell ourselves short.
Which side will you take? Coitus is essential to the survival of the race, so ignore it and continue to rut like animals and, thereby, remain an animal concerning the most important difference: love? Or, is it everyone's right to experience orgasm, however it is done? The two thoughts will remain inconsistent and confrontational until we consider coitus from a Human point of view.
The one act that breeds life does not fulfill the loving potential that any sentient being knows is available. The race of humanity has never admitted to itself that the loving potential of coitus is available to a sentient race.
Coitus is accepted as only for making babies. Coitus remains a loving, human failure. That's really what the arguments regarding sex are all about, and why coitus remains excluded from the arguments, and why the arguments will never be resolved without unassisted Loving Coitus. Yes, we have to have coitus to survive but it is not up to human standards, yet. No one likes the situation but no one is willing to make the problem apparent, so that we can deal with it.
It's worse than that, though. At the heart of it all is that men know damn well, somewhere deep inside, that coitus is not yet up to human standards. No pill is a substitute for men's humanity or manhood. That pill can be traced to the exceedingly toxic and insane behaviour of some.
The pill is a form of defeat. It is not sentient to fabricate an alternative to unassisted Loving Coitus. It is sentient to make unassisted Loving Coitus work as a Human expects. It can. The evidence and proof is beyond doubt.
Realizing that we can do something so important on our own, without props, transforms us. We will no longer remain a scared, dumbfounded child looking around and wondering what happened as we cross the threshold of puberty.
It is just such a weird situation. Men are scared down to their boots to confront the problem. We have always feared the confirmation that it is hopeless. So, no one ever looked. Do you see how confused that is? Everything in our history tells men that it is too big of a challenge. That is the animal talking. The animal's take on coitus has dominated the conversation since the beginning. We haven't begun to bring our sentience to bear on the problem.
Well, you haven't. After tearing down the walls of obstruction, it was pretty easy to begin to see the way through. It will grow even easier, once men become convinced they can succeed at making coitus human and loving. The biggest barrier is the fear to try.
There is no right answer about our existence until loving, mutual pleasure is the expectation for coitus. Right now, humanity is saying, 'we are not sentient' by continuing to act like coitus has no chance of becoming a loving act. Loving coitus is a sentient act. One could say it is the initiating act of fulfilling our sentient state. All roads that lead to sentience remain closed as long as we cannot realize that the most natural act of creation can also become an expression of love between a couple.
It has been right there in front of us all along. We know what's missing but have never convinced ourselves that we can be masters of our own bodies. We are not witless animals. Love is real. It's as tangible as an orgasm when the orgasm is mutual. It exists in a frail, fragile, shadowy form, right now. That has to change.
I was reading an aphorism the other day that says it well. When will the power of love overcome the love of power? When we finally accept our sentient state and all that comes with it. Then we will truly become Human.
Whew! Still a couple of rewrites, I expect.