I've been putting this off for a long time. I've known that I needed to rewrite Explanations into a more concise form as I fear that the length might intimidate some. Explanations (the long version) is still available but I thought it would be worthwhile to begin with a short, more straightforward version.
I hope it helps.
I am sure this will be improved upon in generations to come but this is the essence. It is enough to succeed without trouble though, of course, some effort is required, especially for the first generation to achieve their Humanity. I even think there is a very good chance that someone else today could already explain it a lot more clearly than I have. Wish they would.
Explanations
Let's see if I can put loving coitus into the simplest terms.
The simplest and most obvious observation is that it shouldn't be so difficult. It isn't. It is only complicated to understand. That has held us in thrall of the animal.
There is only one reason the act of love is not. Pressure on the glands in the crotch of the male. The pressure is applied by the muscles in the crotch and certain positions of the musculoskeletal structure.
It is all about mastering muscles. That is something a human can do and an animal cannot. That's it. It is simpler muscle control than talking and less coordination than riding a bike. The muscles can be easily trained not to respond, except on command. Once men get the hang of it, it's as easy as walking on two legs.
Got it?
The biggest problem with coitus is that we have never accepted that the beginning of ejaculation can be delayed as long as necessary by a human, sentient man. Instead, men have struggle to delay the results of ejaculation after it has already begun.
The muscles in the crotch can be mastered to avoid ever beginning ejaculation.
I know how difficult it was for me to overcome the barrage of nonsense that has been thrown at the male gender (by itself) for three millennia.
So, let me capsulize it all. Besides the issue of crotch muscle mastery, there are a few other items of which every man should be aware.
1. If the glands are overfull, it's over before you start. It is like the bladder. It can only hold so much semen and may, in actuality, relieve itself when it becomes too full.
2. The deep forward thrust (twerking) will squeeze the glands. It's a musculoskeletal structure issue. When you twerk (deep forward thrust), you are forcing the crotch into a position that squeezes the glands. To stimulate the woman, no more than two inch penetration is required. Save the deep dive (twerking) for the finale.
3. The crotch muscles are not involved in movement. They only seem so because we have paid no attention to them. They can remain completely disengaged during any movement. Since we have never taken the crotch muscles seriously, they are not toned. They are just like an animal's until you learn to really master them. There are two ways in which the muscles cause ejaculation to begin. They are flexed and relaxed (even though you may not realize it). Secondly, they can just quiver, which is even more difficult to detect. The erotic sensations are essentially a form of tickling which causes the crotch muscles to quiver. Either can start ejaculation. They can be mastered with ease.
4. In order to master these muscles, it is necessary to make them supple and toned and begins to make one aware of when they flex and, generally, become familiar with them.
A. While I'm sure better exercises can be developed, the following does the job.
B. Lying in bed, bend your knees and swing them together and apart.
C. There are three different forms of this exercise to perform.
a. While swinging them together, tighten the crotch muscles. While swinging them apart, leave them relaxed. Do not swing the knees the full extent apart in any of these exercises. It's not necessary and may not be particularly good for the hip joint.
b. While swinging them together, relax the crotch muscles. While swinging them apart, tighten the crotch muscles. Both of these exercises will tone the crotch muscles and, also, make it apparent that the muscles in the crotch are not involved in movement.
c. Swing the knees in both directions without flexing the crotch muscles.
d. I do each set thirty times and it takes less than two minutes.
D. You may want to take longer when you first start the exercises as it is important to assure that you are not flexing the muscles when they are supposed to be relaxed. A pause at each transition is a good idea.
E. Strengthening them is not the point. Mastery is.
Stimulation
A crucial point is that stimulating the woman is not as obvious as one might expect.
The erogenous zone with the most erotic nerve endings is the clitoral nub which is located up to a half an inch outside of the vagina. This is critical. If you do no stimulate this clitoral button, it is unlikely you will be stimulating the woman enough to achieve her own orgasm.
All of the woman's erotic nerve endings are within two inches or less of the vaginal opening.
Note that two inch penetration is more than enough for stimulating the woman. There is no need to go deeper until taking the finale plunge. It will initially be critical that you don't go too deep. That would be twerking.
Edging
One technique that actually seems to work, though it bypasses any effort to actually master the body is 'edging'. Consider it a shortcut, if necessary, while learning.
The idea is that if you stop all activity when the man begins to become overstimulated, let the overstimulation recede, and begin again, the man can extend his efforts. He can extend the loving as long as he desires by repeating the process.
It seems to work remarkably well. More surprising is, after the pause, the span of time and amount of enthusiasm tolerated before ejacutlation seems to increase.
Further thoughts on edging
I am beginning to believe that edging is very complementary to the more sentient rendition of mastering the muscles. I think there is something further that can be comprehended from a close exploration of edging that will expand the definition of mastery. I don't think I will get there.
Forms of damage
Self-stimulation
There is no getting around it. It is almost certain that a man will resort to masturbation at some point, probably very early in his post-puberty life
It is critically important that men learn that, if they self-stimulate without regard, there is a very good chance of damage to their ability to master their bodies and prevent ejaculation until desired.
Habits are hard to break. So, do not develop bad habits.
Bad habits worth noting are abuse of one's member, overstimulation and not understanding the differences between masturbation and loving coitus.
It can be difficult to achieve climax while self-stimulating. Basically, a person cannot tickle themselves, which is essentially what erotic sensations are.
The real point, though, is that a man must learn to restrain himself during self-stimulation. Abuse of his member, in the efforts to attain climax in the shortest amount of time possible (i.e. 'get it over with') can have lasting effects that can trickle over into his efforts on loving coitus. Bad, bad, bad idea.
Also, the mindset of 'getting it over with' is not a good way to pursue mastery of the body.
More so, the more you can make it like a loving experience with a woman the better. There are at least two reasons that it is difficult to achieve climax during self-stimulation.
One cannot 'tickle' oneself. So, stimulation of the member by using something other than the hand might be a good idea. No, it's still not the same but may avoid damage.
The other reason is situational. The positioning and movements vary between loving coitus and masturbation. For instance, there may be no hip movement.
If you have read the previous pages, this should explain well enough. The movement of the hips, especially twerking, has a lot to do with triggering the beginnings of ejaculation.
Circumcision
I really don't want to get into the mess that we call circumcision. It is bad. Period. Full stop. If you are of child-bearing age, you should be aware that the doctors may do it without your permission, unless told otherwise. At least in America.
It won't stop a person from success at loving coitus but it is a sadistic concept and certainly doesn't help anything. It may or may not make successful loving more difficult. I am circumcised and I succeeded but I believe my member is oversensitive because of circumcision. It doesn't matter. If we ever become human, it will be a thing of the past in short order.
I was just reading an article about how people that have a tonsillectomy at a young age have a much greater chance of developing post traumatic stress symptoms later in life??!!!??
My jaw dropped when I saw the article. Not so much in shock that circumcision wasn't referenced. It was just another confirmation on so many levels of the blindness we have acquired as a stupoured animal, when it comes to anything related to coitus.
A few last notes
Be patient, keep up the exercise and become more familiar with your muscles. Use edging, if necessary, in the meantime.
I promise you, if you are not lasting and you have paid attention to such things as overfull glands and twerking, the muscles in the crotch muscles are still reacting. More than likely, it is the thought of ecstasy getting in the way of your concentration to make sure the ecstasy is shared by both. Don't worry, the concentration will also become second nature making the act more fully enjoyable.
It's just that important to our Humanity that the male gender learns to love.