Let's see if I can put it in simple terms to start.
The most simple and obvious is that is shouldn't be so difficult. It isn't.
It is all about muscle control. That's it. It is simpler than talking and less coordination than riding a bike. The muscles can be easily trained not to respond, except on command. Once men get the hang of it, it's easier than walking.
There is only one reason the act of love is over all too soon. Pressure on the glands in the crotch. The pressure is applied by the muscles in the crotch.
Got it?
Humans can write. That is a far more complex task than learning to love a woman. Writing, even bock letters, let alone cursive, is far more difficult and precise. All that is really asked of a man is to not flex the muscles in the crotch.
We have avoided it for so long because of a number of factors, from the way the mind is wiped clean during climax and ecstasy (which the man invariably achieves), to the justifications of pompousness and bombast that grew over the ages instead of utter confidence in oneself. It is why men are so prone to go to sleep after coitus. They don't want to think about it and the awful realization is gone by morning, after a good sleep.
The rest of this post is a much more thorough explanation of that simple fact, as well as a few other points that can trip a man up. It's time, men. Give it a try. What have you got to lose? We have our humanity to gain.
In every book, I have tried to stress how easy it will be for a human male to fulfill loving coitus. With each book, and further study, I become more convinced. It becomes more comprehensible. It will be easy for anyone that abandons the nonsense of our past to become human. It is the crucial step in attaining our sentience.
This section addresses what can be done about the handicap handed down to the human male gender by the witless beasts that roam the Earth. It's all about humanity's ability to think.
We are not human. We are far from it and, yet, only a single step away.
xx I am going to try, once again, to explain, for any young man out there, how to learn to make coitus everything that a human has always desired, a loving event.
The muscles squeeze the glands. They can only do it when the area is already swollen by the erection. Without the muscles in the crotch flexing or moving the body into certain unusual positions (like twerking) or overfull glands, there is no way for a man to begin the process. It is not a hopeless process as men have always believed. No one thought it through. That's all.
For older men, they have the added burden of overcoming habits of a lifetime and not just in the sack. For some, that will be easy. For others, I'm sure it will be a struggle.
That's all it really takes. That's what all of this is about. Just controlling the muscles in the crotch. Those muscles do a lot of things by rote, just because they have never been told to do elsewise. They have no involvement in movement and, yet, most every man has never tried to not use those muscles.
There's more to it but that's the gist of it. The most difficult part of it is controlling a few muscles.
That is the thorn in the side of most every man. It must become a thing of the past.
Does anyone yet get how on target the sentence, "men take, women give, and it all starts in bed" is? Can you admit it and move on to making it no longer true?
The stupour will immerse us in its animal nonsense as long as we let it. This is what every younger generation rebels against. The stain of the animal. We can think in ways that an animal can't begin to comprehend.
We have been remiss when it comes to loving coitus. Loving coitus is a very advanced sentient thought. It's only been on our minds for about three millennia. Before that? Not a chance. For three millennia we have held ourselves in the most awful stasis.
It's really time to get over it.
No one (man or woman) walks out of puberty unscathed until we completely understand what is going on and make coitus a consistently loving act.
Men have, for millennia, attempted to hold off the results of the ejaculation process after it has started. Men were so bewildered by the causes of the start of the process of ejaculation that it was deemed a 'mystery'. Part of that is surely due to the short-circuit of the human mind for a few moments.
Because the initiation of the process remained beyond comprehension, men have always attempted to 'hold on for dear life' after the process has already begun. The initiation of the process is due to squeezing the glands in the crotch. Pure and simple.
The end is in sight once the process begins.
There is no reason to start the process until ready to do so.
There is one and only one reason for the ejaculation process to begin. The sex glands in the crotch, when squeezed, begin the ejaculation process by starting the flow of semen towards its final destination. It's already all over.
The stimulation that leads to the end is all about squeezing the sex glands. There is no reason to stimulate those glands until you are ready to do so. It does not need to happen until it is desired. All it takes is mastery of the muscles in your crotch and a little knowledge about how it all works.
Men must become masters of their own bodies.
There are two catalysts for the sex glands to begin the process of ejaculation, the muscles in the crotch and musculoskeletal structural positioning of the crotch. In other words, twerking is for finales. More on that throughout the books. Simply, though, save the deep dive for the finale.
I want to start with exercise and the muscles. First of all, be careful. As with any exercise, do not continue if you strain a muscle. If you feel a pain, stop for the day and wait a day to try again.
What is startling (as with all aspects of this journey) is that there are a group of muscles in a man's crotch (women, also, for that matter) that are attached at different points to the pelvic bone and only to the pelvic bone.
That means they have nothing to do with movement. The pelvic bone does not normally move. The muscles are completely controllable. The sensual sensitivity can triggers the muscles, as well. The muscles can flinch. With a little thought and care, even this can be mastered.
The muscles are completely independent of any movement of the body and, yet, because we have not trained our bodies, the muscles in the crotch respond to movement.
Try it sometime. Try using only your crotch muscles to move any part of your body. They can't. They're not connected that way. They have another job to do.
They do not need to flex unless willed to do so. Not having this level of control of the muscles in the crotch causes most of the problems for men during coitus. It is easy to overcome.
In two different ways, these muscles are the source of one of the two ways in which the ejaculation process begins.
Because men are not masters of their bodies, the muscles in the crotch flex in sympathetic movement as the body moves. They also quiver in response to erotic sensations.
All because men have lacked of mastery of these muscles. This isn't like martial arts training. It's just being familiar with those muscles and making sure they are responsive to your commands. The exercises to make them supple and responsive, also train them to respond. In the most important case, they must not respond at all until desired.
Stronger muscles is not really the point. Supple muscles under command of the human is. The exercise takes about two minutes a day.
Don't worry, the muscles can respond at any moment you desire. They just don't need to respond before you desire.
The other action that begins the ejaculation process is the far forward thrust of the crotch. In this case, the musculoskeletal structure is the cause. When thrusting the crotch forward (twerking, if you will), the sex glands are squeezed. Don't do it until the finale is desired.
I have been working on a set of exercises to train the muscles in the crotch to only respond to explicit commands and stay quiescent, otherwise.
The exercises are simple. It's just really a matter of flexing the legs and the crotch and the flexing the legs and not the crotch.
One intent is to make these muscles become supple. The other is to make them more responsive to the human's commands.
The perfect example of that is the loss of control of bodily functions as one ages. There seems no need for that to happen (except, maybe, in extreme advanced age). In my case, as my age advances well into my waning years, as I learned to exercise those muscles, my control over bodily functions has improved drastically, not to mention the mastery of loving coitus.
The other, most important goal, is to train those muscles to either flex or remain relaxed as desired, not quiver under any condition, all under the mastery of the will of a human. The quivering, of course, takes a decent amount of control. In essence, the quivering is caused by a tickling sensation similar to other tickling sensations in other parts of the body that everyone learns to control to some extent. The first step is to learn to control those muscles in the crotch.
In bed, as I prepare to sleep, I go through a set of exercises that takes no more that two or three minutes. You could probably extend it, but I've found two or three minutes enough. I guess you can do some version of them just about anywhere. But, really, two minutes seems like plenty.
One set works the muscles in the crotch. The other trains them to remain unresponsive when desired.
Keep in mind that, as with any exercise, if you feel the slightest discomfort. Quit and try, again, another day or have yourself checked out.
The variants that could be attempted are endless.
The exercise is performed with the knees bent, feet flat on the bed while lying down. I, then, flex the knees to the side to, maybe, between a forty-five and ninety degree angle. Don't push the distances. It's not terribly important. There is no need to stress the hips by forcing the knees to their widest angle.
I alternate between swinging the knees together while purposely flexing the crotch muscles and relax the muscles as the knees move apart. It is a lot of muscles, so it should be done with thought.
This takes a little more than thirty seconds. Then, I swing the knees in the same manner while concentrating on not flexing the crotch muscles at all.
I wish it was as easy as to say, "just don't flex those muscles, in your crotch during coitus" and, I believe, that will be the case within one or two generations as we abandon all of the nonsense and realize that we can do a lot better than we ever imagined.
It will initially take a slight amount of thought. I expect that a few minutes a day will continue to be necessary to keep these muscles supple, even once the male gender is convinced that it can make love the way they have always desired (and so have women). As you age, the muscles will certainly matter in other areas, as well.
I don't think the exercises will continue to be necessary for the purpose of mastery. A young person, realizing that past does not equal present, will have no trouble mastering their muscles. It is just a matter of realizing what is going on and learning it early enough to supplant the instincts of the animal with the mastery of a human before the habits of the animal set in.
The exercises also make it possible for you to sense those muscles. I follow these two exercises of thirty repetitions each with the same two exercises with only six repetitions. I take five seconds for each repetition (rather than ~one), so the amount of time is equivalent to the previous set of exercises.
I'm not saying any of this is the rule. It is just a basic exercise that I developed over fifteen years. I think they can be improved.
This second set of exercises is meant to take the time to sense the muscles in the crotch in fine detail. I believe this is critically important.
It is a whole set of muscles that can be flexed in a number of different ways. For instance, one might flex the muscles on one end more than on the other.
These muscles extend from a point near where the penis leaves the body and extends back to the anus. Plenty of images on line. The muscles can contract at all points along the way. They are mostly attached side to side. I concentrate on making them all contract and release equally. And, more importantly, all of these muscles remain relaxed when unnecessary.
One sensation that I have just begun to note is the attachment to the pelvis itself. This is difficult for me to explain because it is new.
Further exercise
I have explained the basic exercises above that sensitize a person to the muscles in the crotch, but there is clearly more to it.
It may be simple for a youth that grows up knowing that they should be able to love without any fear of failure. We are not there yet. More than that, they will have no fear of failure once enough men have proved it out. Don't worry. It will radiate out of them.
They will rapidly develop better exercises that these.
xx While every generation, up to this point in time, has been surprised, as they achieve puberty, to find that the man does not last long enough to fulfill the woman that will not be the case with fully informed youths.
The test mentioned at the beginning of the chapter may be very good training, as well as a test to confirm to the man that he is improving.
I am more and more confident that mankind can make this transition with ease. The more I think about it, the more it makes sense that a sensitivity can easily develop.
I run into the fact that we never talk about stuff like this so, of course, we have never known that it can be done.
The only outstanding question is whether the exercise was of import. How to explain? When you are young, before you pick up bad habits, if one understands the need and the importance, almost from osmosis, then I would not be surprised at all that they can do it with the need for exercise. I still think the exercise will be a good idea.
Missing pieces
Edging
I should add these pieces from previous efforts. They are important but I will only skim over them.
One technique that actually seems to work, though it bypasses any effort to actually master the body is 'edging'. It complements the training to master the body well.
The idea is that if you stop all activity when the man begins to become overstimulated, let the overstimulation recede, and begin again, the man can extend his efforts. He can extend the loving as long as he desires by repeating the process.
It seems to work remarkably well. More surprising is, after the pause, the span of time and amount of enthusiasm tolerated seems to increase.
I'll leave it at that.
Self-stimulation
There is no getting around it. It is almost certain that a man will need to resort to masturbation at some point, probably very early in his post-puberty residence.
I hope that the situation will work in such a way that most men will only need to self-stimulate until they find a compatible woman to love. I cannot be certain that is true but, since the woman should be enjoying the event as much as the man, I have high hopes. If not, it may become a lifelong fallback position for men.
It is critically important that men learn that, if they self-stimulate without regard, there is a very good chance it will damage their ability to master their bodies.
Let's just say it is worth emphasizing, in this case, that habits are hard to break. So, do not
It is also worth noting the differences between self-stimulation and loving coitus. It is one of the most significant insights that led me to realize that loving coitus can succeed.
It can be difficult to achieve climax while self-stimulating. There are reasons for that and it leads to the realization that it has to be possible for loving coitus to last longer than expected.
The real point, though, is that a man must learn to restrain himself during self-stimulation. Abuse of his member, in the efforts to attain climax in the shortest amount of time possible (i.e. 'get it over with') can have lasting effects that can trickle over into his efforts on loving coitus.
Also, the mindset of 'getting it over with' is not a good way to pursue mastery of the body.
More so, the more you can make it like a loving experience with a woman the better. There are at least two reasons that it is difficult to achieve climax during self-stimulation. One cannot 'tickle' oneself. So, stimulation of the member by using something other than the hand might be a good idea.
The other reason is situational. The positioning is standing up, which is unusual (though not unheard of) for coitus and the movement can be very different. In other words, during self-stimulation, the hip movement can be radically different in that one may not move their hips at all during self- stimulation.
If you have read the previous pages, this should explain well enough. The movement of the hips has a lot to do with triggering the beginnings of ejaculation.
Overfull glands
There is one additional case to keep in mind. If the sex glands become overfull, there will be no stopping the start of the ejaculation process. Just like the bladder, it will reach a point where it can no longer be contained. Just the erection will be enough to squeeze the glands.
Mindset
Most of all, it is a matter of mindset. Men are so convinced they can only last a very few minutes that they have never taken success seriously. That mindset is only the lingering maunderings of the animal that we once were.
I'm not even sure that any explanation (as detailed above) will be necessary, once humanity has learned to love.
The success itself will quickly expose any taboos that remain in place to the sexual situation.
Such as those taboos regarding self-stimulation. If self-stimulation is no longer deemed taboo, then the explanations regarding abuse of the member and the disastrous habits created by hurrying should no longer be required.