Evidence

Premise: Humanity won't be human until men learn to love.  Men won't learn to love until they learn to master their bodies.

Evidence:

    Sentience, humanity's heightened awareness of existence, is a change of state.  It is not just a genetic change.  It is a change of awareness of reality which we have yet to fulfill.

     Does it take evidence to convince you that our earliest ancestors were dumber than a bag of hammers?  That they were more animal than human?  That their minds had difficulty accepting the reality that its conscious awareness began to make evident?

Our history is riddled with the evidence.

Does it take some great leap of insight to realize that they didn't know what to think regarding the very human dilemma of sentience?  They were an animal trying to figure out a very different human, sentient existence and reality.   

The proof regarding the most important topic is right in front of us.  Does the proclamation that men lasting two minutes is good enough while women need more like ten to fifteen minutes to achieve orgasm mean nothing to you?  

    It is right there in the proclamation. It is the evidence that we are continuing to attempt to twist an animal's state of failure to be acceptable by a human, sentient race. No one has ever asked if it is possible to succeed at making coitus a loving event. 

     I did. It is. 

    We have accepted the animal's defeat regarding the most important act of life that no sentient race would ever accept.  That is the evidence.

Does that not compute?  Only if you have had nothing but mutually fulfilling coitus can you refute it.  The dumb animal from which we evolved remains, look around.  It hasn't changed ... yet!

One realization repelled the animal's limited awareness.  It was beyond their scope.  It is not beyond ours.

Does it take evidence to realize that coitus has been trapped in the animal's witless enactment?  That it is only witless acceptance that restrains us from realizing it is easy for a thinking human being to succeed?   Does it take evidence to realize that humans require more than the witless rutting of an animal?  Both genders suffer as long as coitus remains unfulfilling to a sentient mind?

Does it take evidence to realize that a man can control his body to such a fine degree that he can make coitus a loving event?  We have only blinded ourselves to a sentient reality.  Coitus can become a loving event for a human race.  In making it so, we become human.  Finally.

Does it take evidence to realize that coitus has been trapped in a witless animal's enactment?  Does it take evidence to realize that humans are capable of more than the witless rutting of an animal?  

Both genders suffer as long as coitus remains unfulfilling to a sentient mind?

Do you need evidence that coitus is not working right for a sentient race? 

Are you really satisfied with something less?  Does any other way in which to provide mutual satisfaction fulfill you?  Do you never wonder what it would be like to share that fulfillment while gazing into the eyes of your lover?  Would you avoid it if you knew it was easily possible?

Or, do you believe that it is better to ignore what our sentient awareness has always told us: that there is more to coitus than an animal ever imagined?  Do you need evidence to convince you that women like orgasms, also?  Don't you think it odd that we have found other ways to seek mutual sexual satisfaction but have never done anything regarding the most natural, loving physical act of sex in a human manner of learning to master one's own body?  Don't worry.  It's not as big a deal as it sounds.  Do you think using a pill, the tongue, or a dildo can substitute for the most natural act of engaging in coitus unassisted?  It is surrender.  We surrender more each day.

Or, maybe you need more evidence that men can last indefinitely. I do, also.  I've provided evidence regarding why men fail to last, an explanation of why ejaculation occurs and how to delay it until she so desires.  Nothing will substitute for all men knowing they are good at coitus.

What will it take to prove to you that there is something wrong with a race that hides from the fact that men can't provide the most glorious delight possible in life to his woman through the most natural method that nature provided?  

Do you point to fictional depictions of coitus for proof that coitus is okay?  Do you discount your own experience?  If you are the one that has loving coitus regularly without assistance of any kind, of course, please raise your hand.

How in the world does anyone need proof that something is wrong between the two sexes?  It is so much like two armed camps as to take one's breath away.  Do you need evidence regarding the abuse men heap down on anyone they can, especially women?  How about the daily news?

Can you possibly be so dense as to still want to focus on the isolated events, the individual crimes rather than the big picture?

No, what really stunts a man's humanity is knowing that he's hiding from his failure, hiding from the feeling that he is helpless in the face of his failure, often foolishly believing it is just him.  Do you not see this all shows itself blatantly in the conduct of so many men? 

The only thing for which I cannot provide proof is that love is initiated in the physical domain and that we really haven't a clue, yet, when it comes to love.  We know love, not at all.  I think the proof of three thousand years of the failure of willing ourselves into a loving mindset, against all sense, would be enough for you to, at least, consider the proposal.  Animals can't love.  Humans can.

The evidence that we have become utterly confused on the topics of sex and love is everywhere.

The proof that the subject of sex is taboo is everywhere.

If I sound acerbic, you've got that right.

The evidence is available and documented regarding the offensive behaviour of men towards women (and in general), though I don't think it is needed, that one in three women are abused, which I am certain is an underestimate, if you define abuse as violence in any form, including verbal, mental, and betrayal.  And, the latest, what is now called micro-aggressions, is just further proof that training men only makes the offenses go underground.  

Maybe the link between the failure of animal sex to satisfy our heightened awareness and the offensive nature of men towards women is just too much for you.  It doesn't really matter, one in three women being abused at some point in their lives is enough to prove something is seriously wrong.  

If you have a better suggestion for why this occurs, I am more than willing to listen.  Just, don't wave your arms around and say, "men are bad."  or "It's just some men."  or "It's not only men."

Two armed camps and no one is winning.

We pout our lives away.  Should I go through all of the common phrases, once again?  "We are only human" is just the top of my list.  "That's just the way it is" is right up there.  Existentialist despair is another.

Do you need evidence to realize that we can do better at coitus?  Do you need evidence to prove that a man would like to satisfy his woman sexually while inside of her?

Does it take evidence to convince you that we are not doing very well as a sentient race?  Do you need evidence to be convinced that there should be something more than existentialism? That all of our attempts to become better humans in the past have been all for naught?  

Do you need evidence that we have been going downhill for quite a few centuries as we thrash around?  That we are getting no closer to an emotionally balanced, rational existence and much closer to destroying ourselves?  

Do you really believe our human condition is the best we can do?  Do you really think laws, and pounding the pulpit is what it takes to become a loving and human race?  Do you really believe we are getting any closer to something sentient, loving?

How do I prove that humans are broken because the human race has not raised coitus to a human standard or, at least, identified the dilemma in order to address it seriously?  

The "evidence" is in the fact that there is something wrong with a sexually sentient race that cannot admit that there is more necessary for a sentient version of coitus.  It is there in the fact that the mention of sex is taboo.  It is there in the fact that men, after three thousand years can do no better than rut.  Don't you dare shrug your shoulders.

The strongest evidence of all is that we don't even admit that there is a problem with coitus.  That we create fictions that represent fulfilling coitus but never the reality.  

We point it out in so many indirect ways but we are never willing to state it outright.  The jokes in the sitcoms about the man lasting just long enough to get his rocks off and, then, going directly to sleep.

Any romantic comedy assures you that the woman is satisfied during coitus.  The evidence is that it occurs in fiction regularly but not so much in real life (e.g. two minutes versus ten).  If it isn't stated outright in the romcom, it is implied.  Only if your own experience with unassisted coitus has been fully satisfactory can you possibly argue.  I don't expect to hear any argument on that basis.

It wasn't stupidity that caused us to avoid realizing that something is missing.  It was stupour.  That is the only possible reason for it to have taken humanity three thousand years to figure it out.  The stupour and deceit need to end.  That is the heart and soul of our disruption.

Mince the words as you please, we have been deluded and the delusions and deceits have extended themselves into every corner of our existence.  If you cannot admit that you have bought into a fiction, no amount of "evidence" is going to change your mind.  

If you are repulsed by the idea of every man being able to satisfy their lover during coitus, that is evidence of its own.  Why else would anyone argue so hard against the idea?  

Aaaarrrrgggghhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The completed sentient state is a heightened state of unobstructed awareness.  Of course, every living being has some level of awareness.  

We exceed the level of awareness of any other life-form on Earth by a long shot.  Where we fall short is that our awareness is anything but unobstructed.  A huge factor in that obstructive veil is the lack of loving coitus.  It may be the only obstructive veil.  

Whether coitus alone accounts for all of the nonsense, misery, and horror that we tolerate, we will just have to see, if we ever get over our delusions and look at sex and coitus without compromise, without delusion and resolve our issues.

I'm going to end on a political note here.  Just for kicks and just because it's bloody important.

Tell men that they can get back to us all when it comes to leading the way once they learn can lead themselves into mastering their own damned bodies and learn to love.

How men would dare to lead for the last three millennia in the feeble shape they are in is beyond me.  They have bashed their way through life, so far.  It's time for it to end.  Men need a timeout to think it all through.  Let the ladies lead and get back to me when you can act like a rational gender.  In the meantime, consider yourself on a timeout.

Yes, some women will probably suffer, no matter how they vote, if Blue wins in a tidal wave, but women are going to suffer until we get our heads on straight, once and for all, and start acting like humans, instead of the offensive beastly behaviour that so many well-off individuals have developed in their concentration on their own mania as they discuss it among themselves and rationalize an insane existence.  

Can those old and wealthy get over themselves to the extent to realize they deserve no privileged status for putting their wealth above their humanity.  Just look at the worst examples that are in the news every single day.  The worst ones avoid the public eye.

They learned how to manipulate the systems (even if it means breaking it completely to pieces) in order to 'get ahead', whatever that means to those that follow the mantra of money above all else.

The most extreme branch of the party of men is glaring evidence as to the strutting embarrassment that men constantly have to defend against - until they make the change that makes them human.  There is no such thing as an extreme version of the party of women.  It is a human perspective on life.

The evidence is becoming overwhelming.

Modern times evidence

Just look at the movie rating systems.  If the movie is full of blood, and gore, and destruction, it is rated PG-13.  If it has the slightest innuendo of sex, it is rate R, if not X.

To show the body is considered are horror.  To show death, blood and gore is just accepting life as it is?

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Uncanny

1. We are completely dependent on coitus for our existence.  Without it, we become extinct.

2. No one, man nor woman, is satisfied with the results of the act of coitus when the ecstasy is not mutual.  Oh, yes!  Men are relieved but not satisfied if it is not mutual.  Only a male animal would be satisfied.   

3.  Early humans became convinced we could do no better than an animal at coitus.  Mutual coital satisfaction was not conceivable when we first attained our sentient state.

4. The prehumans of long ago had no experience, knowledge, or insights regarding the sentient state.  Premises 1, 2, & 3 confounded them.  They did not have the wherewithal to cope.  So they buried the whole issue beneath paradigms of nonsense. 

  Because coitus is so important, we couldn't stop.  We also couldn't let it rest.  The realization that coitus could be something more never went away.  Our sentience will not let us do so.  

Instead, we buried it in the subconscious where it has festered.

The simple fact is that, like it or not, coitus must continue or we do not.  That, combined with sentient awareness of the imbalanced, frustrating situation bent our brains like a pretzel.

5. Being sentient and human, we know better.  We know that the human race is not just an animal.  We know we should be able to do better than an animal.  (We can)  Unassisted loving coitus needs to become an expectation, just as walking on two legs and talking are.

6.  Sentient conscious awareness changed everything.  It made us aware of what was missing.  It also made us aware that it should not be missing.  It put the two sentiently aware genders at odds.  The dumb-founded stupour of the animal remained in tact.  

More than that, Nature provided everything a human male needs to transform coitus into a consistently loving act.  He can be master of his own body.  We have just never applied our sentience to the issue.  It is just a matter of conquering the animal instincts that lead to failure.

7.  We created the word love, because our sentience sensed it, but never created the circumstances to fulfill it.  

Love starts with physical love.  It is not complete until unassisted coitus is an act of physical love.  This does not abrogate the many loving alternatives that humanity has found.  It complements them.

8.  Only because of the inertia of the animal and self-inflicted obstructions, it became nearly impossible for the male human to contemplate the situation, much less realize they are not constrained by the same limitations as animals when it comes to the act of coitus.  It is a matter that only sentient awareness can overcome.  With ease, though our sentience may require a little time to clear away the cobwebs.

9.  Men remain constrained by preconceptions that lead them to fail by treating the event as an animal would.  Once free of the misconceptions, men will succeed with ease.

10.  The current situation renders the male gender, in particular, mad (the female gender gets there by exposure to the madness of the other half of the human race over the last three millennia).  

It's not like men enjoy going mad over a lifetime as they repeatedly fail to express their love in the uniquely human manner.  The best of men are still hindered, even though they accept the burden of failure with some grace.  The worst, well, the worst go completely mad.

For a sentient race, there can be so much more to coitus and we know it.  It can become a loving act, not just the rutting of animals.  Until that happens, love will continue to corrode into lust, perversions, distrust, delusions, outright lies, and madness. 

The physical act of sharing love in a decisively human way initiates the loving, sentient state.  Be careful with that statement.  Coitus is the crucial act that fulfills our existence in a way that animals could never even dream.

We have clung to the outdated concepts of the animal for far too long. 

Coitus is stripped bare of all of its tremendous and essential human potential every time it ends all too soon.  Loving coitus is human. Until we succeed at loving coitus as a race, we remain prehuman and much closer to a demented animal as a race.

The biggest irony of all is how easily it is for a man to succeed.  That is, any human, thinking male.

To summarize: we cannot live in a sentient manner with coitus in its animal form and we certainly cannot exist without coitus.  We remain caught within the bizarre world of the animal's stupour, far from the magnificent existence that a sentient, loving landscape will provide.

The phrase "we are only human" says it all.  It is the most offensive phrase ever created and, so far, we deserve it.  To state it accurately, though, would be to say "we are only prehuman."  I look forward to the day that we say, "Omigoodness, we are human!"

Nature/Gaia/Life and the Trajectory of Life are becoming more and more stunning as I ponder further.  A race was born with far too much intellect and capability for an animal.  It was also given the key to exceed the expectations of the animal, succeed at life, put away the stupour of the animal, end the ceaseless and stupid fighting, and become a loving, balanced, rational, emotionally stable, human, sentient race.

The Road Foreword

     The Road Foreword

     All men; that is a human, sentient male; can do something they never believed was possible and always desired to do.  They desired to do it so desperately that it drove them crazy, derailed our sentient state, and wrecked any hope of humanity becoming what Nature always intended:  a loving, emotionally stable, rational, sentient race that respects itself instead of constantly tearing itself down and relying on fictions.  "Omigoodness, we're human" rather than "We're only human" is the difference.

     We are so close to educating the heart that it hurts.

     The long answer is a bit more complicated. 

  We are not complete until men share equally with women.  There is only one way that happens.  If you are just reading this, you have no idea what I am talking about and how important it is.  Prepare yourself for a journey to somewhere you never expected but always desired.

        Conscious evolution

Conscious adaptation to circumstances is how a sentient race evolves itself.  Humanity is liberated by sentient instincts, the ability to comprehend so much more than an animal.  

    Sentient instincts are all about honesty and clarity.  We seek truth and, yet, in one case, we have hid from the truth.  We have shunted a critical realization to the subconscious.

Conscious evolution is all about adaptation to sentient realizations.  The subconscious is where we have put those sentient realizations that we have not been willing to confront.

    We will be truly sentient when we can gather our thoughts as a species and adapt to what our sentience makes crystal clear.  A stable emotional environment (not an automaton, not Mr. Spock, and not Pavlov's Dog) is required.

This is a story about what liberates both the mind and the heart, in that order, so that we can think and live consciously without pandering to the animal.

(one ups-man-ship on Aristotle; inside joke)

Prehumans

 I just realized that some might read "prehuman" in the wrong way.  I fear that some might think it is an irreversible difference between a person alive today and a human.  Prehuman does not equate with subhuman. 

Physically, genetically, there is no difference between prehuman and human.  It is only the state of sentient awareness that has been disrupted for as long as we have attempted to be sentient.  

The disastrous preconceptions of the prehuman state blunts our sentient state. 

I sometimes refer to what must happen as conscious evolution as opposed to genetic evolution.  Or, conscious evolution as opposed to witless revolution.

Clodhoppers

I am paving the way for humanity to take off its clodhoppers and put wings on its heels, instead.  Turn clodhopping into cloudhopping.

"Forward vision"

 Stand upon the rampart's wall of all eternity

See the past and future tense of split infinity

The dizzy spells recede

The forward gaze is freed

No other generation lived will stand upon a time

When culture and the words we use all changes on a dime

The briefest glimpse, head snaps in both directions

What is and what will be is seen in the reflections

Tremendous time of loving change

Don't let a beat of pulse derange

Carry on, just one more time

Crafting words and thoughts in rhyme

What a wind's relief to stand upon

End of all the smallest things and beginning of new dawn

The pulse will race

The heart to pace

Beyond the bounds of time

We'll nestle there

Amidst our care

And love in words and rhyme