The Road Foreword

     The Road Foreword

     All men; that is a human, sentient male; can do something they never believed was possible and always desired to do.  They desired to do it so desperately that it drove them crazy, derailed our sentient state, and wrecked any hope of humanity becoming what Nature always intended:  a loving, emotionally stable and mature, rational, sentient race that respects itself instead of constantly tearing itself down and relying on fictions.  "Omigoodness, we're human" rather than "We're only human" is the vast difference.

     We are so close to educating the heart that it hurts.

     The long answer is a bit more complicated.  I'll get into that in later posts.

 

        Conscious evolution

Conscious adaptation to circumstances is how a sentient race evolves itself.  It makes of evolution something that is no longer willy-nilly.  We aren't there yet.

Humanity, once completely liberated by sentient cognitive function, which is the ability to comprehend so much more than an animal and seek clarity, will accelerate the race's evolution into new directions.  It's not about intelligence.  It's about clarity.  It is not about educating the mind.  It is about educating the heart.

Conscious evolution is all about adaptation to realizations that our sentient, conscious awareness makes apparent.  It is a matter of no longer denying what our sentience reveals.  Animals react to circumstances by instinct and suppress what is not understood.  Conscious evolution will supplant witless revolution for the human race. 

The subconscious is where a sentient race puts realizations that they have not been willing or able to process.  It causes madness as we seek to hide from the clarity our sentient capabilities reveal and demand.  The more momentous the realization, the more difficult it is to suppress.

One such subject is so momentous that we attempted to prevent any trace of it to remain.  That is, of course, impossible for a sentient race that seeks answers and clarity.  

        We become extremely uncomfortable when the subject is broached (so, be prepared). 

Because it is so momentous, clarity suffered a debilitating blow.  As we age, we learn to obscure it entirely from sight.  That is what we attempt to teach our children.  That is what children have and always will rebel against, until the whole truth is revealed.

    We will be truly sentient when we can gather our thoughts as a species and adapt to that which our sentience has made so crystal clear. 

This is a story about what liberates both the mind and the heart of humanity.  We can think and live consciously, rationally, amidst a mature emotional backdrop of stability and balance by no longer pandering to the animal.

Uncanny

1. We are completely dependent on coitus (sexual intercourse) for our existence.  Without it, we become extinct. 

2. No one, man nor woman, is satisfied with the selfish results of the act of coitus when the ecstasy is not mutual.  Oh, yes!  Men are relieved but not satisfied if it is not mutual.  Only a male animal would be satisfied.   A male human is confounded.  There is no reason for it to remain so. 

The two genders suffer to similar extents but in vastly different ways because of this anomaly to human life. 

3.  Early humans became convinced we could do no better than an animal at coitus.  Mutual coital satisfaction was not even conceivable when we first attained our sentient state.  The belief became embedded that there was nothing to be done.

4. The prehumans of long ago had no experience, knowledge, or insights regarding improving an act that had been based in the animal's instinctual reaction for hundreds of millions of years.  Premises 1, 2, & 3 confounded them.  They did not have the wherewithal to cope.  They had no knowledge, yet, to bring to bear.  So they buried the whole issue beneath paradigms of nonsense which have been passed along, generation by generation.  Excuses. 

     Because of coitus' crucial function, we couldn't stop.  Because of our sentient awareness, we could not let it rest.  The sense that coitus could be something more has never gone away.  With each generation, the rebellion continues and will until we become Human.  Our sentience will not let us avoid the issue and previous generations' assurances that "we are only human" are not accepted until the latest generation surrenders, never realizing that our animal past has impeded its very investigation at a phenomenal level.  The stupoured state of the animal would not let us succeed.  Until now.

We buried the truth in the subconscious where it has festered.  Instead, we create pills rather than fulfill our sentient state.  That is nothing short of insane.

The simple fact is that, like it or not, coitus must continue or we do not.  That, combined with sentient awareness of the imbalanced, frustrating situation without achieving resolution bent our brains like a pretzel.

5. Being sentient and human, we know better.  

We know that the human race is not just an animal.  We know we should be able to do better than an animal.   (We can; I did; see "Explanations")  

Unassisted loving coitus (shared ecstasy) needs to become an expectation, just as walking on two legs and talking are.  It's that easy, once we rid ourselves of relying on the animal's instincts.  It is the next step in attaining our Humanity.

6. Sentient conscious awareness changed everything.  It made us aware of what was missing.  It also made us aware that it should not be missing.  It put the two sentiently aware genders at odds with each other and our animal legacy at odds with our sentient aspirations, capabilities, and conscious awareness.  

7. Nature provided everything a human male needs to transform coitus into a consistently loving act.  As I delve deeper, it is so simple that it would be amazing that it was never discovered before, if it weren't for the brain interruptus during ecstasy.  The man takes and woman gives.  That is learned in bed.  It continues to stunt our development.   Selfish results force the stupour to remain.

A man can be master of his own body.  We have just never applied our sentience awareness to the issue because we could not tolerate the failure and awareness, simultaneously.  One had to go.  Since failure was beyond previous generations to overcome, awareness was sacrificed.

8.  We created the word love, because our sentience sensed it.  We were left to our own devices to create the circumstances to fulfill it.  Nature gave us all that was required and left it to us.  Lately, we have become increasingly convinced that love is only gibberish.  We have always underestimated love.

Love starts with physical love.  While we call anything involving sex, "making love", it is only mutual ecstasy that suits the term.

9.  Because of the inertia of the animal and self-inflicted obstructions, it became nearly impossible for the male human to contemplate the situation at all, much less realize they are not constrained by the same limitations as animals when it comes to the act of coitus.  We became caught in a rut of many dimensions.   Men will succeed with ease, once our sentience has a chance to clear away the cobwebs.  We have been immersed in a delusion for three thousand years.

10. Men remain constrained by preconceptions that lead them to fail by treating the event as an animal would.  Once free of the misconceptions, men will find they can succeed with ease.

11.  The existing situation renders the male gender, in particular, mad (the female gender gets there by exposure to the madness of the other half of the human race over the last three millennia).   Sorry, guys, but you really need to admit this to yourself.

It's not like men enjoy going mad over a lifetime as they repeatedly fail to express their love.  

For a sentient race, there can be so much more to coitus and we know it.  It can become a loving act, not just the rutting of animals.  Until that happens, love will continue to corrode into lust, perversions, distrust, delusions, obsessions, aberrations, outright lies, madness, mass destruction, and self-destruction. 

The physical act of sharing love in a decisively human way initiates the loving, sentient state.  Coitus is the crucial act that fulfills our existence in a way that animals could never even dream.

It is not utopia.  It is just no longer dystopia.  It is Human.

We have clung to the outdated concepts of the animal for far too long. 

Coitus is stripped bare of all of its tremendous and essential human potential every time it ends all too soon, which is the most common case.  Loving coitus is human.

The biggest irony of all is how easy it is for a man to succeed.  That is, any human, thinking male.  The male gender is so certain of failure that it has never accepted the concept that they can succeed.  Their perspective remained too close to an animal's instincts and pretext.

To summarize: we cannot live in a sentient manner while coitus remains in its animal rendition and we certainly cannot exist without coitus.  We remain caught within the bizarre world of the animal's stupour, far from the magnificent existence that a sentient, loving landscape can provide.

The phrase "we are only human" says it all.  It is the most offensive phrase ever created and, so far, we deserve it.  To state it accurately, though, would be to say "we are only prehuman."  I look forward to the day that we say, "Omigoodness, we are Human!"

A race was born with far too much intellect and capability for an animal's circumstances, along with an ongoing and increasing bent towards emotional upheaval until they fulfill its cornerstone.  

The race was given the key to exceed the expectations of the animal, succeed at life, put away the stupour of the animal, end the ceaseless and stupid fighting, and become a loving, balanced, rational, emotionally stable, human, sentient race.  No dystopia.

Further Attempt At Clarification

There are two desires for a human when it comes to coitus.  Ecstasy for oneself and one's partner. Animals haven't the wit to comprehend what is missing nor the wit to do anything about it.  We do.

A brief explanation (not that brief)

I've been putting this off for a long time.  I've known that I needed to rewrite Explanations into a more concise form as I fear that the length might intimidate some.  Explanations (the long version) is still available but I thought it would be worthwhile to begin with a short, more straightforward version.

I hope it helps.

I am sure this will be improved upon in generations to come but this is the essence.  It is enough to succeed without trouble though, of course, some effort is required, especially for the first generation to achieve their Humanity.  I even think there is a very good chance that someone else today could already explain it a lot more clearly than I have.  Wish they would.

Explanations

  Let's see if I can put loving coitus into the simplest terms.

The simplest and most obvious observation is that it shouldn't be so difficult.  It isn't.  It is only complicated to understand.   That has held us in thrall of the animal.

There is only one reason the act of love is not.  Pressure on the glands in the crotch of the male.  The pressure is applied by the muscles in the crotch and certain positions of the musculoskeletal structure.  

       It is all about mastering muscles. That is something a human can do and an animal cannot.  That's it.  It is simpler muscle control than talking and less coordination than riding a bike.  The muscles can be easily trained not to respond, except on command. Once men get the hang of it, it's as easy as walking on two legs.

Got it?

    The biggest problem with coitus is that we have never accepted that the beginning of ejaculation can be delayed as long as necessary by a human, sentient man.  Instead, men have struggle to delay the results of ejaculation after it has already begun.

    The muscles in the crotch can be mastered to avoid ever beginning ejaculation.

     I know how difficult it was for me to overcome the barrage of nonsense that has been thrown at the male gender (by itself) for three millennia.

    So, let me capsulize it all.  Besides the issue of crotch muscle mastery, there are a few other items of which every man should be aware.  

    1.  If the glands are overfull, it's over before you start.  It is like the bladder.  It can only hold so much semen and may, in actuality, relieve itself when it becomes too full.

   2.  The deep forward thrust (twerking) will squeeze the glands.  It's a musculoskeletal structure issue.  When you twerk (deep forward thrust), you are forcing the crotch into a position that squeezes the glands.  To stimulate the woman, no more than two inch penetration is required.  Save the deep dive (twerking) for the finale.

    3.  The crotch muscles are not involved in movement.  They only seem so because we have paid no attention to them.  They can remain completely disengaged during any movement.  Since we have never taken the crotch muscles seriously, they are not toned.  They are just like an animal's until you learn to really master them.  There are two ways in which the muscles cause ejaculation to begin.  They are flexed and relaxed (even though you may not realize it).  Secondly, they can just quiver, which is even more difficult to detect. The erotic sensations are essentially a form of tickling which causes the crotch muscles to quiver.  Either can start ejaculation.  They can be mastered with ease.

    4.  In order to master these muscles, it is necessary to make them supple and toned and begins to make one aware of when they flex and, generally, become familiar with them.

        A.  While I'm sure better exercises can be developed, the following does the job.

        B.  Lying in bed, bend your knees and swing them together and apart.

        C.  There are three different forms of this exercise to perform.

             a.  While swinging them together, tighten the crotch muscles.  While swinging them apart, leave them relaxed.  Do not swing the knees the full extent apart in any of these exercises.  It's not necessary and may not be particularly good for the hip joint.

          b. While swinging them together, relax the crotch muscles.  While swinging them apart, tighten the crotch muscles.  Both of these exercises will tone the crotch muscles and, also, make it apparent that the muscles in the crotch are not involved in movement.

              c.  Swing the knees in both directions without flexing the crotch muscles.

              d.  I do each set thirty times and it takes less than two minutes.

        D. You may want to take longer when you first start the exercises as it is important to assure that you are not flexing the muscles when they are supposed to be relaxed.  A pause at each transition is a good idea.

        E.  Strengthening them is not the point.  Mastery is.

Stimulation

        A crucial point is that stimulating the woman is not as obvious as one might expect.

    The erogenous zone with the most erotic nerve endings is the clitoral nub which is located up to a half an inch outside of the vagina.  This is critical.  If you do no stimulate this clitoral button, it is unlikely you will be stimulating the woman enough to achieve her own orgasm.

All of the woman's erotic nerve endings are within two inches or less of the vaginal opening.  

Note that two inch penetration is more than enough for stimulating the woman.  There is no need to go deeper until taking the finale plunge.  It will initially be critical that you don't go too deep.  That would be twerking.

Edging

One technique that actually seems to work, though it bypasses any effort to actually master the body is 'edging'.  Consider it a shortcut, if necessary, while learning.

The idea is that if you stop all activity when the man begins to become overstimulated, let the overstimulation recede, and begin again, the man can extend his efforts.  He can extend the loving as long as he desires by repeating the process.

It seems to work remarkably well.  More surprising is, after the pause, the span of time and amount of enthusiasm tolerated before ejacutlation seems to increase.

Further thoughts on edging

I am beginning to believe that edging is very complementary to the more sentient rendition of mastering the muscles.  I think there is something further that can be comprehended from a close exploration of edging that will expand the definition of mastery.  I don't think I will get there.

Forms of damage

Self-stimulation

There is no getting around it.  It is almost certain that a man will resort to masturbation at some point, probably very early in his post-puberty life

It is critically important that men learn that, if they self-stimulate without regard, there is a very good chance of damage to their ability to master their bodies and prevent ejaculation until desired.

Habits are hard to break.  So, do not develop bad habits.

Bad habits worth noting are abuse of one's member, overstimulation and not understanding the differences between masturbation and loving coitus.

It can be difficult to achieve climax while self-stimulating.  Basically, a person cannot tickle themselves, which is essentially what erotic sensations are.

The real point, though, is that a man must learn to restrain himself during self-stimulation.  Abuse of his member, in the efforts to attain climax in the shortest amount of time possible (i.e. 'get it over with') can have lasting effects that can trickle over into his efforts on loving coitus.  Bad, bad, bad idea.

Also, the mindset of 'getting it over with' is not a good way to pursue mastery of the body.

More so, the more you can make it like a loving experience with a woman the better.  There are at least two reasons that it is difficult to achieve climax during self-stimulation.  

One cannot 'tickle' oneself.  So, stimulation of the member by using something other than the hand might be a good idea.  No, it's still not the same but may avoid damage.

The other reason is situational.  The positioning and movements vary between loving coitus and masturbation.  For instance,   there may be no hip movement. 

If you have read the previous pages, this should explain well enough.  The movement of the hips, especially twerking, has a lot to do with triggering the beginnings of ejaculation.

Circumcision

I really don't want to get into the mess that we call circumcision.  It is bad.  Period.  Full stop.  If you are of child-bearing age, you should be aware that the doctors may do it without your permission, unless told otherwise.  At least in America.

It won't stop a person from success at loving coitus but it is a sadistic concept and certainly doesn't help anything.  It may or may not make successful loving more difficult.  I am circumcised and I succeeded but I believe my member is oversensitive because of circumcision.  It doesn't matter.  If we ever become human, it will be a thing of the past in short order.

I was just reading an article about how people that have a tonsillectomy at a young age have a much greater chance of developing post traumatic stress symptoms later in life??!!!??

My jaw dropped when I saw the article.  Not so much in shock that circumcision wasn't referenced.  It was just another confirmation on so many levels of the blindness we have acquired as a stupoured animal, when it comes to anything related to coitus.

A few last notes

Be patient, keep up the exercise and become more familiar with your muscles.  Use edging, if necessary, in the meantime.

I promise you, if you are not lasting and you have paid attention to such things as overfull glands and twerking, the muscles in the crotch muscles are still reacting.  More than likely, it is the thought of ecstasy getting in the way of your concentration to make sure the ecstasy is shared by both.  Don't worry, the concentration will also become second nature making the act more fully enjoyable.

    It's just that important to our Humanity that the male gender learns to love.

"Love and Lust"

Heart, the closest confidante, nonplussed
By reeling of emotions we should trust
So, when the spinal fire is turned to dust
Love, the infinite, corrodes to lust

Moving forward

        Men have sought surcease.  They should have been seeking success. 

No getting around it.  Men should have been asking themselves and each other this question all along.  "Why can't I last as long as it takes?"  The answer is, "you can."  If men had asked each other this question, they would have realized a long time ago that they can succeed.

Instead, we have created a tempest in a tea cup that has gone on for three millennia to distract rather than face that which is clearly an unnecessary failing.  We are sentient.

It's always been treated as the greatest secret that everybody knows.  It is something that everyone has only kept from themselves.   We have turned our existence upside down attempting to avoid the beautiful and inevitable conclusion.  Men can love.  We are not Human until it is so.

So, read on.  Or, not.  Keep the secret that is no secret to yourself, just like our dim-witted ancestors have done for the last three millennia.  Let the awful, insidious, unnecessary paranoia of the male gender continue to disrupt our loving nature.   Or, learn to love.

Clodhoppers

I am paving the way for humanity to take off its clodhoppers and put wings on its heels, instead.  Turn clodhopping into cloudhopping.

Misogyny

  Misogyny is one of my strongest arguments against the prehuman condition.  Misogyny can only exist in a very warped version of reality.  It makes no sense.  I've written about it in a variety of ways in a number of the books.  It proves that we are somewhere beyond the animal realm, while still far from the boundaries of a sentient reality.  Misogyny doesn't even make sense to an animal.  Only the prehuman.

There is only one link in the chain of events of our existence that suffices to explain misogyny.  There is only one reason that misogyny could possibly exist.  I have spent the last fifteen years explaining it.  The exploration was tortuous because of the twisted way in which we have accepted misogyny and distorted our existence.  

I had to overcome all of the lies we tell ourselves.  They are nearly endless.

Get over the guilt and shame of the male gender, men, and realize that you can do that which you have always desired and, finally, treat women equally and equitably.  You are Human, though you have yet to realize it.  There is only one way to achieve it.