I am sure this will be improved upon in generations to come but this is the essence. It is enough to succeed without trouble.
Explanations
Let's see if I can put loving coitus into the simplest terms.
The simplest and most obvious observation is that it shouldn't be so difficult. It isn't. It is only complicated to understand. That has held us in the thrall of the animal for millennia.
There is only one reason the act of love is not. Pressure on the glands in the crotch. The pressure is applied by the muscles in the crotch and certain positions of the musculoskeletal structure.
It is all about mastering muscles. That is something a human can do and an animal cannot. That's it. It is simpler muscle control than talking and less coordination than riding a bike. The muscles can be easily trained not to respond, except on command. Once men get the hang of it, it's as easy as walking on two legs.
Got it?
The rest is far longer than it would need to be for a fully developed human race. A Human in their youth, that has not already been convinced he can never succeed, will just need to be told, "don't squeeze the glands" to succeed. Maybe there is a father-son conversation for a couple of generations but I doubt even that will be needed, once the conversation leads further than, "stick it in" or "goodness, find some other way!"
The paragraphs above, in this section, should be more than enough for a sentient race that does not delude itself and lives amidst panic, distractions, delusions, and paradigms of nonsense.
Let me see if I can explain. A child that grows up in the positive atmosphere that will develop in the presence of success at coitus will easily realize that, in order to not squeeze the glands, one must control the muscles in the crotch. It's really straightforward. I have to believe that, within a very few generations, it will become instinctual to succeed. There is no need for any genetic change in order to succeed. It's just a matter of thinking and it's not even a difficult thought. "Don't squeeze the glands." Of course, it's about some other slightly more subtle actions than just controlling the muscles but, without the certainty of failure, any kid in this teens would figure it out in short order. More so, with the true confidence of their elders causing a wind at their back, they will know the certainty of success. If they run into trouble, they can always ask. No one can even ask the question in the current rendition in which all have been programmed to avoid the subject.
We are not a fully developed Human race, so I erred on the side of caution and detailed explanations. I am certain these are not all of the answers, either. It is enough to succeed with ease, though, once the certainty of failure is put aside. These are the answers and insights that can allow men to succeed at loving and finally look in the mirror without cringing.
Still working on explaining it in a more simple way. That just hasn't been the top priority, once it was clear that penetrating the stupour was a bigger problem.
All that has impeded us is the stupour of the animal.
It is too complex for an animal's mind but, once fully understood, it is simple indeed. Future generations will have no need for instructions. "don't squeeze the glands" should suffice.
It is no surprise that it took so long to figure out. The crucial insight goes against all of our training and the animal instincts and the male gender did not want to look.
Strength is what counts to hold back the two other bodily emissions or succeed at throwing a spear farther or winning a race. It is deeply embedded that strength supersedes all. You tighten the muscles to keep from expelling fluids and you loosen them to allow the bodily wastes to be expelled.
As pointed out above, that is not how it works for the loving act. It is just the opposite.
Muscles that are toned, supple, and responsive are important. That is an easy level of mastery for a sentient being.
Training these particular muscles to not respond until you decide to do so is crucial. It's easy, once you get the hang of it. Then, it's loving like never before for you, and for the whole of the human race, once the whole human race catches on. Once it catches on, once enough men succeed, it will spread like wildfire.
Humans can write. That is a far more complex task than learning to love a woman. I think it's fair to say that everyone, at puberty, is more enthusiastic about sex and fulfillment than writing. So, the interest is there. It just gets squashed by disappointment. We've dumbed ourselves down for three millennia.
Writing, even bock letters, let alone cursive, is far more difficult and precise than making love work. All that is really asked of a man is to not flex the muscles in the crotch.
We have avoided it for so long because of a number of factors. The mind is wiped clean during climax and ecstasy (which the man invariably achieves, by the way).
In every book, I have tried to stress how easy it will be for a human male to fulfill loving coitus. With each book, and further study, it becomes more comprehensible.
The muscles squeeze the glands. They can only do so when the area is already swollen by the erection. Without the muscles in the crotch flexing or moving the body into certain unusual positions (like twerking) or overfull glands, there is no way for the process of ejaculation to begin.
The muscles in the crotch do a lot of things by rote/instinct because they have never been trained. They have no involvement in movement and, yet, they flex during movement because of rote and instincts.
No one (man or woman) walks out of puberty unscathed until we completely understand what is going on and make coitus a consistently loving act.
Men have, for millennia, attempted to hold off the results of the ejaculation process after it has started. This is done through strength. It can only give you two or three minutes.
The start of the process of ejaculation has always been deemed a 'mystery'. Not a clue, so they struggled to hold on a few moments longer at the end.
The end is in sight once the process begins. Men have been attempting to hold off the flood after it was already on its way. They need only stop the tide rising, in the first place. Much, much, much more effective.
There is no reason to start the process until ready to do so.
The sex glands in the crotch, when squeezed, begin the ejaculation process by starting the flow of semen towards its final destination. It's already all over.
More detail
There are two catalysts that squeeze the sex glands to begin the process of ejaculation, the muscles in the crotch and musculoskeletal structural positioning of the crotch. I only stressed the muscles in the first section because the rest is just a matter of realization. No training really required. Also, there is an additional component to the muscle mastery.
To summarize the importance of musculoskeletal structure, twerking (or the deep dive) is for finales only. Guaranteed. More on that throughout the books. Simply, though, save the deep dive for the finale.
Penetration only needs to be a short depth to stimulate the woman (more on that later). Keep it as shallow as possible until you learn what you are doing.
There are a couple of notes as I get into exercises that might help. First of all, the exercise may be crucial for those steeped in the stupour, which is everyone today. I do not think they will be so crucial for the young men of future generations that are not utterly blinded to their ability to love, though it may still be necessary as one ages. There is just so much more to learn before we know for certain.
Another point is that these muscles get the least exercise of any muscles in the human body. So, yes, it will probably be necessary to exercise them for a couple of reasons. It allows one to become familiar with the muscles. This is crucial. We are not just animals. We can master those muscles but it will certainly require familiarity. The exercise of these muscles is the easiest route to becoming familiar. It is also crucial that these muscles become supple. As it is, these muscles mostly languish through life. While they can be exercised, not current exercise available do so because the muscles have nothing to do with movement. If they are exercised at all, it is haphazard. It is also certain that part of the exercise concentrating on leaving the muscles relaxed while the muscles required for movement respond. The maintenance of those muscles makes the mastery simpler.
First of all, be careful. As with any exercise, do not continue if you strain a muscle. If you feel a pain, stop for the day and wait a day to try again.
What is startling (as with all aspects of this journey) is that there are a group of muscles in a man's crotch (women, also, for that matter) that are attached at different points to the pelvic bone and only to the pelvic bone.
The pelvic bone does not move, so there is no movement component to the use of the crotch muscles.
It is the lower muscles particularly that need mastery. It's the whole batch of muscles needs mastery but the muscles more towards the rear are the ones that directly pressure the glands.
The animal's instinctual reaction of those muscles is all that needs to be overcome. As I state in Uncanny, tightening muscles in order to stave off release of any bodily fluids is the usual expectation. It doesn't work that way, in this case. Worse yet, anyone that attempts to keep those muscles relaxed without familiarity with the muscles may actually believe that they have succeeded.
Because, we never really took it seriously, those muscles are almost atrophied with no real control applied, except to control bodily fluids a few times a day for a few seconds. Think about it. Everything else down there is controlled by squeezing the muscles. Who would think that coitus would be the exact opposite?
The muscles are completely controllable and do not need to respond to any bodily movement if they are mastered. Yet, we've done nothing but let them react.
Sensual sensitivities, the erotic sensations can triggers the muscles, as well, to twinge or flinch. With a little thought, care, and familiarity, even this can be mastered to the point that it becomes natural. A simple point regarding this is to go slow until the finale. If you take a little longer than necessary, I doubt she will complain.
The man should never fear that his own ecstasy cannot be achieved. The deep dive is certain to bring on the finale.
The muscles are completely independent of any movement of the body and, yet, because we have not trained our bodies, the muscles in the crotch respond to movement. That is another part of the exercise.
Try it sometime. Try using only your crotch muscles to move any part of your body. They can't. They're not connected that way. They have other jobs to do.
Not having control of the muscles in the crotch causes most of the problems for men during coitus. It is easy to overcome.
In two different ways, these muscles are the source of one of the two ways in which the ejaculation process begins.
The muscles in the crotch flex in sympathetic movement as the body moves. They also quiver in response to erotic sensations. Unless they are mastered.
This isn't like martial arts mastery. It's just being familiar with those muscles and making sure they respond to your commands. The exercises I suggest make them supple and train them to respond or not. In the most important case, they must not respond until desired.
Stronger muscles is not really the point. Supple muscles under human command is. The exercise takes about two minutes a day.
The other action that begins the ejaculation process is the far forward thrust of the crotch or twerking. In this case, the musculoskeletal structure is the cause. When thrusting the crotch forward, the sex glands are squeezed. Don't do it until the finale is desired.
The exercises are simple. It's just really a matter of flexing the leg muscles and the crotch muscles; and flexing the legs and not the crotch.
In bed, as I prepare to sleep, I go through a set of exercises that takes no more that two or three minutes. You could probably extend it, but two or three minutes seems enough. I guess you could do some version of them just about anywhere.
Keep in mind that, as with any exercise, if you feel the slightest discomfort. Quit and try, again, another day or have yourself checked out.
Let me stress that these are not the be-all and end-all for exercising the crotch. I would expect the could be improved vastly. All I can say is that they work.
The exercise is performed with the knees bent, feet flat on the bed while lying down. I, then, flex the knees to the side to, maybe, to a forty-five degree angle or so. Don't push the angle too much. It's not terribly important. There is no need to stress the hips by forcing the knees to their widest angle.
I alternate between swinging the knees closer together while purposely flexing the crotch muscles and relax the muscles as the knees move apart. It is a lot of muscles, so it should be done with thought initially. As success becomes the expectation, it will become more natural.
This takes a little more than thirty seconds to do thirty. Then, I swing the knees in the same manner while concentrating on not flexing the crotch muscles at all.
I wish it was as easy as to say, "just don't flex those muscles, in your crotch during coitus" and, I believe, that will be the case within one or two generations as we abandon all of the nonsense and realize that we can do a lot better than we ever imagined.
It will initially take a slight amount of thought. I expect that a few minutes a day will continue to be necessary to keep these muscles supple (especially as one ages), even once the male gender can make love the way they have always desired (as have women). As you age, those muscles certainly begin to matter in other areas, as well. Like not wearing a diaper.
I don't think the exercises will continue to be necessary for the purpose of mastery. A young person, realizing that past does not define present, will have no trouble mastering their muscles.
It is a matter of replacing the blind instincts of an animal that we have never confronted.
The main purpose, of course, is that the exercises make it possible for you to sense those muscles. I follow these two exercises of thirty repetitions each with the same two exercises with only six repetitions. I take ~ five seconds for each repetition (rather than ~ one), so the amount of time is equivalent to the previous set of exercises.
I'm not saying any of this is the rule. It is just a basic exercise that I developed over fifteen years. I think the exercises can be improved. I just don't think the exercises are a big deal. Just necessary.
This second set of slower movement exercises is meant to give the time to sense the muscles in the crotch in fine detail. I believe this is critically important at this point.
I have just begun to sense the attachment to the pelvis itself. This is difficult for me to explain because it is so new.
Further exercise
I have explained the basic exercises above that sensitize a person to the muscles in the crotch, but there is clearly more to it.
It may be simple for a youth that grows up knowing that they should be able to love without any fear of failure. We are not there yet. More than that, they will have no fear of failure once enough men have proved it out. Don't worry. It will radiate outward.
While every generation, up to this point in time, has been surprised, as they achieve puberty, to find that the man does not last long enough to fulfill the woman, that will not be the case with fully informed youths.
I am more and more confident that mankind can make this transition with ease.
I run into the fact that we never talk about stuff like this so, of course, we have never known that it can be done.
I have explained the basic exercises above that sensitize a person to the muscles in the crotch, but there is clearly more to it.
I am more and more confident that mankind can make this transition with ease.
Edging
I should add these pieces from previous efforts. They are important but I will only skim over them.
One technique that actually seems to work, though it bypasses any effort to actually master the body is 'edging'. .
The idea is that if you stop all activity when the man begins to become overstimulated, let the overstimulation recede, and begin again, the man can extend his efforts. He can extend the loving as long as he desires by repeating the process.
It seems to work remarkably well. More surprising is, after the pause, the span of time and amount of enthusiasm tolerated seems to increase.
Further thoughts on edging
I am beginning to believe that edging is very complementary to the more sentient rendition of mastering the muscles. I think there is something further that can be surmised from a close exploration of edging that will expand the definition of mastery.
Overfull glands
There is one additional case to keep in mind. If the sex glands become overfull, there will be no stopping the start of the ejaculation process. Just like the bladder, it will reach a point where it can no longer be contained. Just the erection will be enough to squeeze the glands. That is easily resolved.
Forms of damage
Self-stimulation
There is no getting around it. It is almost certain that a man will resort to masturbation at some point, probably very early in his post-puberty residency.
It is critically important that men learn that, if they self-stimulate without regard, there is a very good chance of damage to their ability to master their bodies.
Let's just say it is worth emphasizing, in this case, that habits are hard to break. So, do not develop bad habits.
Bad habits to note are abuse of one's member, overstimulation and not understanding the differences between masturbation and loving coitus.
It can be difficult to achieve climax while self-stimulating. Basically, a person cannot tickle themselves, which is essentially what erotic sensations are.
The real point, though, is that a man must learn to restrain himself during self-stimulation. Abuse of his member, in the efforts to attain climax in the shortest amount of time possible (i.e. 'get it over with') can have lasting effects that can trickle over into his efforts on loving coitus. Bad, bad, bad idea.
Also, the mindset of 'getting it over with' is not a good way to pursue mastery of the body.
More so, the more you can make it like a loving experience with a woman the better. There are at least two reasons that it is difficult to achieve climax during self-stimulation.
One cannot 'tickle' oneself. So, stimulation of the member by using something other than the hand might be a good idea. No, it's still not the same but may avoid damage.
The other reason is situational. The positioning and movements vary between loving coitus and masturbation. For instance, there may be no hip movement.
If you have read the previous pages, this should explain well enough. The movement of the hips, especially twerking, has a lot to do with triggering the beginnings of ejaculation.
Circumcision
I really don't want to get into the mess that we call circumcision. It is bad. Period. Full stop. If you are of child-bearing age, you should be aware that the doctors may do it without your permission, unless told otherwise.
It won't stop a person from success at loving coitus but it is a sadistic concept and certainly doesn't help anything. It may or may not make successful loving more difficult. I am circumcised and I succeeded but I believe my member is oversensitive because of circumcision. It doesn't matter. If we ever become human, it will be a thing of the past in short order.
I was just reading an article about how people that have a tonsillectomy at a young age have a much greater chance of developing post traumatic stress symptoms later in life??!!!??
My jaw dropped when I saw the article. Not so much in shock that circumcision wasn't referenced. It was just another confirmation on so many levels of the blindness we have acquired as a stupoured animal.
A few last notes
As I said, the point is to not flex the crotch muscles or even let them twinge.
The first few that try this might be initially convinced that the muscles are not reacting at all.
Be patient, keep up the exercise and become more familiar with your muscles.
I promise you, if you are not lasting, the muscles in the crotch are active, as long as you paid attention to such things as overfull glands and musculoskeletal structural effects. More than likely, it is the thought of ecstasy getting in the way of doing that which you so desire: make sure the ecstasy includes both.
Mindset
Most of all, it is a matter of mindset. Men are so convinced they can only last a very few minutes that they have never taken success seriously. That mindset is only the lingering maunderings of the animal that we once were that goes back at least three millennia.
I doubt any explanation (as detailed above) will be necessary, once humanity has learned to love.
Maybe the biggest relief for both genders will be that discussion with prepubescent children. Both genders will finally have something to say that isn't regretful.
Success itself will quickly expose any taboos that remain in place.
Learnings
This will not be the definitive statement on loving coitus. There will be no definitive statement on loving coitus.
If I am entirely correct, loving coitus will become as natural an expression of love and an expectation as walking, talking, or holding someone.
In fact, the last of those three expectations will become much more popular. The ice will melt.
So, no real definition will be required in the long run. It will become as natural as living a loving sentient life rather than a rutting, bestial existence.
Do you see where we got confused? We equated sex with a bestial existence, whereas it is the rutting escapades of an animal, rather than a loving event, that drags us low.
The distaste that so many have towards sex is just not specific enough. The distaste is for rutting without the element of love added that can only be added once the male learns he is far more than an animal.
Further
You must understand that I have been chasing the facts (all available) for fifteen years, after I realized that we had all been scammed for millennia into believing there was nothing to be done about the state of coitus or our Humanity.
So, it has been a serial effort of wading through all of the lies we have told ourselves for three millennia.
This is part of what makes this so maddening. If I were younger, I could take these latter insights a lot further. Without evidence of my own success, I can only suggest what I expect to happen.
Everything previous to this subchapter has been proven thoroughly. The biggest insight was that it is all about the muscles and the glands in the crotch. Most of the rest is rather obvious, once you proceed past the blinders.
I think the end state, for instance (which I have not proven), is that, once men grow up expecting success and realizing that success at puberty, they will find that it takes no effort at all. It is less complicated than so many activities that humans already perform, like talking, walking, and riding a bike. It's easier than all three. It's just muscle mastery.
Primarily, men need to believe they can succeed. The rest they'll pick up in casual conversation. It may take a few pointers but I doubt it. It's really rather obvious in the absence of gibberish.
So, anyways, this is my latest insight on the problem that men, thinking they are no better than an animal, have endured since the beginning.
I've mentioned that the erotic sensations of the glans (clitoris (including wishbones) for women; head of penis for the man) that can lead to orgasm are essentially a tickling sensation. They can make the muscles in the crotch quiver, which is enough to start the process of ejaculation. Going slow takes care of that until you have mastered your muscles.
I am not yet totally convinced that going slow will be necessary at all, once a man learns to master those muscles. It could be that, just like assuming the twerking position, it should be under full control of the man.
There's no doubt about it. It will be far more of a challenge to go at a rapid pace and avoid quivering those muscles, due to the erotic sensations but, as far as I can tell, it should be possible. Not sure it is advisable or attractive until the end. Yes, there is a lot left to figure out.
The rapid movement will be the last challenge. Don't even try it before you know what you are doing. With slow, easy movements, and familiarity with the muscles, a man can last as long as she desires.
There are also no worries. At any point, it is certain that squeezing those muscles, not to mention twerking, will cause the man's ejaculation and orgasm. It's always been about the woman's pleasure. The man's is almost invariably assured.
I hope to hear back from a man that has difficulty achieving his own orgasm. I suggested what was wrong. He seemed to agree. If I hear of success from him, that will be another final proof. If not, then I don't entirely understand the problem but it does not invalidate the finding that I have proved on my own.
Stimulation
All of the woman's erotic nerve endings are within two inches or less of the vaginal opening. The erogenous zone with the most erotic nerve endings is the clitoral nub which is located about half an inch outside of the vagina. This is critical. If you do no stimulate this clitoral button, it is unlikely you will be stimulating the woman enough to achieve her own orgasm.
Note that two inch penetration is more than enough for stimulating the woman. There is no need to go deeper until taking the finale plunge. It will initially be critical that you don't go deeper.
There's a lot more in the books about this subtopic but this should suffice. That leaves a lot of room to explore the romance of the circumstances as the loving becomes real.
The biggest challenge
Can you begin to imagine how difficult it is to stay the course when the whole of humanity thinks you're crazy?
My confidence never wavered over a lifetime until the last decade or so, after I had published and distributed a few hundred copies of my first book.
The contention has never changed since then. On one side, I knew my words did not do the subject matter justice. On the other, how could no one detect the slightest glimmer of what I was saying and seek to understand further. Or, if they understood, say something. The best I ever got was incoherent reliance on lesser cognitive biases.
That seems to be where I have had the most trouble, other than the fact that the subject of sex freaks everybody out. I had bypassed all of the lesser biases in my search for what was at the bottom of it all.
I know my words do not always suffice but it's all there, throughout fourteen books and a few hundred thousand more words. That is only representative of another huge challenge. The unraveling the nonsense of three millennia of a race, unprepared and shell-shocked by its sentience, creating the biggest coverup in history. That was almost as bad as the grating of staying the course against all of the stupoured reaction.
My confidence never really wavered, even then, though my frustration grew to match the rage and outrage that I have experienced ever since I first realized that my own gender had betrayed itself.
For a more in-depth look, please visit sentienceww.blogspot.com or read the fourteen books I wrote on the subject. I would start with the most recent. It's been a long and painful journey.