The Road Foreword

     The Road Foreword

     All men; that is a human, sentient male; can do something they never believed was possible and always desired to do.  They desired to do it so desperately that it drove them crazy, derailed our sentient state, and wrecked any hope of humanity becoming what Nature always intended:  a loving, emotionally stable and mature, rational, sentient race that respects itself instead of constantly tearing itself down and relying on fictions.  "Omigoodness, we're human" rather than "We're only human" is the vast difference.

     We are so close to educating the heart that it hurts.

     The long answer is a bit more complicated.  I'll get into that in later posts.

 

        Conscious evolution

Conscious adaptation to circumstances is how a sentient race evolves itself.  It makes of evolution something that is no longer willy-nilly.  We aren't there yet.

Humanity, once completely liberated by sentient cognitive function, which is the ability to comprehend so much more than an animal and seek clarity, will accelerate the race's evolution into new directions.  It's not about intelligence.  It's about clarity.  It is not about educating the mind.  It is about educating the heart.

Conscious evolution is all about adaptation to realizations that our sentient, conscious awareness makes apparent.  It is a matter of no longer denying what our sentience reveals.  Animals react to circumstances by instinct and suppress what is not understood.  Conscious evolution will supplant witless revolution for the human race. 

The subconscious is where a sentient race puts realizations that they have not been willing or able to process, just like an animal.  It causes madness as we seek to hide from the clarity our sentient capabilities reveal and demand.  The more momentous the realization, the more difficult it is to suppress.

One such subject is so momentous that we attempted to prevent any trace of it to remain.  That is, of course, impossible for a sentient race whose awareness seeks answers and demands clarity.  

        We become extremely uncomfortable when the subject is broached (so, be prepared). 

Because it is so momentous, clarity suffered a debilitating blow.  As we age, we learn to obscure it entirely from sight.  That is what we attempt to teach our children.  That is what children have and always will rebel against, until the whole truth is revealed.

    We will be truly sentient when we can gather our thoughts as a species and adapt to that which our sentience has made so crystal clear. 

This is a story about what liberates both the mind and the heart of humanity.  We can think and live consciously, rationally, amidst a mature emotional backdrop of stability and balance by no longer pandering to the animal.

Uncanny

1. We are completely dependent on coitus (sexual intercourse) for our existence.  Without it, we become extinct. 

2. No one, man nor woman, is satisfied with the selfish results of the act of coitus when the ecstasy is not mutual.  Oh, yes!  Men are relieved but not satisfied if it is not mutual.  Only a male animal would be satisfied.   A male human is confounded.  There is no reason for it to remain so. 

The two genders suffer to similar extents but in vastly different ways because of this anomaly to human life. 

3.  Early humans became convinced we could do no better than an animal at coitus.  Mutual coital satisfaction was not even conceivable when we first attained our sentient state.  The belief became embedded that there was nothing to be done.

4. The prehumans of long ago had no experience, knowledge, or insights regarding improving an act that had been based in the animal's instinctual reaction for hundreds of millions of years.  Premises 1, 2, & 3 confounded them.  They did not have the wherewithal to cope.  They had no knowledge, yet, to bring to bear.  So they buried the whole issue beneath paradigms of nonsense which have been passed along, generation by generation.  Excuses. 

     Because of coitus' crucial function, we couldn't stop.  Because of our sentient awareness, we could not let it rest.  The sense that coitus could be something more has never gone away.  With each generation, the rebellion continues and will until we become Human.  Our sentience will not let us avoid the issue and previous generations' assurances that "we are only human" are not accepted until the latest generation surrenders, never realizing that our animal past has impeded its very investigation at a phenomenal level.  The stupoured state of the animal would not let us succeed.  Until now.

We buried the truth in the subconscious where it has festered.  Instead, we create pills rather than fulfill our sentient state.  That is nothing short of insane.

The simple fact is that, like it or not, coitus must continue or we do not.  That, combined with sentient awareness of the imbalanced, frustrating situation without achieving resolution bent our brains like a pretzel.

5. Being sentient and human, we know better.  

We know that the human race is not just an animal.  We know we should be able to do better than an animal.   (We can; I did; see "Explanations")  

Unassisted loving coitus (shared ecstasy) needs to become an expectation, just as walking on two legs and talking are.  It's that easy, once we rid ourselves of relying on the animal's instincts.  It is the next step in attaining our Humanity.

6. Sentient conscious awareness changed everything.  It made us aware of what was missing.  It also made us aware that it should not be missing.  It put the two sentiently aware genders at odds with each other and our animal legacy at odds with our sentient aspirations, capabilities, and conscious awareness.  

7. Nature provided everything a human male needs to transform coitus into a consistently loving act.  As I delve deeper, it is so simple that it would be amazing that it was never discovered before, if it weren't for the brain interruptus during ecstasy.  The man takes and woman gives.  That is learned in bed.  It continues to stunt our development.   Selfish results force the stupour to remain.

A man can be master of his own body.  We have just never applied our sentience awareness to the issue because we could not tolerate the failure and awareness, simultaneously.  One had to go.  Since failure was beyond previous generations to overcome, awareness was sacrificed.

8.  We created the word love, because our sentience sensed it.  We were left to our own devices to create the circumstances to fulfill it.  Nature gave us all that was required and left it to us.  Lately, we have become increasingly convinced that love is only gibberish.  We have always underestimated love.

Love starts with physical love.  While we call anything involving sex, "making love", it is only mutual ecstasy that suits the term.

9.  Because of the inertia of the animal and self-inflicted obstructions, it became nearly impossible for the male human to contemplate the situation at all, much less realize they are not constrained by the same limitations as animals when it comes to the act of coitus.  We became caught in a rut of many dimensions.   Men will succeed with ease, once our sentience has a chance to clear away the cobwebs.  We have been immersed in a delusion for three thousand years.

10. Men remain constrained by preconceptions that lead them to fail by treating the event as an animal would.  Once free of the misconceptions, men will find they can succeed with ease.

11.  The existing situation renders the male gender, in particular, mad (the female gender gets there by exposure to the madness of the other half of the human race over the last three millennia).   Sorry, guys, but you really need to admit this to yourself.

It's not like men enjoy going mad over a lifetime as they repeatedly fail to express their love.  

For a sentient race, there can be so much more to coitus and we know it.  It can become a loving act, not just the rutting of animals.  Until that happens, love will continue to corrode into lust, perversions, distrust, delusions, obsessions, aberrations, outright lies, madness, mass destruction, and self-destruction. 

The physical act of sharing love in a decisively human way initiates the loving, sentient state.  Coitus is the crucial act that fulfills our existence in a way that animals could never even dream.

It is not utopia.  It is just no longer dystopia.  It is Human.

We have clung to the outdated concepts of the animal for far too long. 

Coitus is stripped bare of all of its tremendous and essential human potential every time it ends all too soon, which is the most common case.  Loving coitus is human.

The biggest irony of all is how easy it is for a man to succeed.  That is, any human, thinking male.  The male gender is so certain of failure that it has never accepted the concept that they can succeed.  Their perspective remained too close to an animal's instincts and pretext.

To summarize: we cannot live in a sentient manner while coitus remains in its animal rendition and we certainly cannot exist without coitus.  We remain caught within the bizarre world of the animal's stupour, far from the magnificent existence that a sentient, loving landscape can provide.

The phrase "we are only human" says it all.  It is the most offensive phrase ever created and, so far, we deserve it.  To state it accurately, though, would be to say "we are only prehuman."  I look forward to the day that we say, "Omigoodness, we are Human!"

A race was born with far too much intellect and capability for an animal's circumstances, along with an ongoing and increasing bent towards emotional upheaval until they fulfill its cornerstone.  

The race was given the key to exceed the expectations of the animal, succeed at life, put away the stupour of the animal, end the ceaseless and stupid fighting, and become a loving, balanced, rational, emotionally stable, human, sentient race.  No dystopia.

Further Attempt At Clarification

There are two desires for a human when it comes to coitus.  Ecstasy for oneself and one's partner. Animals haven't the wit to comprehend what is missing nor the wit to do anything about it.  We do.

A brief explanation (not that brief)

I've been putting this off for a long time.  I've known that I needed to rewrite Explanations into a more concise form as I fear that the length might intimidate some.  Explanations (the long version) is still available but I thought it would be worthwhile to begin with a short, more straightforward version.

I hope it helps.

I am sure this will be improved upon in generations to come but this is the essence.  It is enough to succeed without trouble though, of course, some effort is required, especially for the first generation to achieve their Humanity.  I even think there is a very good chance that someone else today could already explain it a lot more clearly than I have.  Wish they would.

Explanations

  Let's see if I can put loving coitus into the simplest terms.

The simplest and most obvious observation is that it shouldn't be so difficult.  It isn't.  It is only complicated to understand.   That has held us in thrall of the animal.

There is only one reason the act of love is not.  Pressure on the glands in the crotch of the male.  The pressure is applied by the muscles in the crotch and certain positions of the musculoskeletal structure.  

       It is all about mastering muscles. That is something a human can do and an animal cannot.  That's it.  It is simpler muscle control than talking and less coordination than riding a bike.  The muscles can be easily trained not to respond, except on command. Once men get the hang of it, it's as easy as walking on two legs.

Got it?

    The biggest problem with coitus is that we have never accepted that the beginning of ejaculation can be delayed as long as necessary by a human, sentient man.  Instead, men have struggle to delay the results of ejaculation after it has already begun.

    The muscles in the crotch can be mastered to avoid ever beginning ejaculation.

     I know how difficult it was for me to overcome the barrage of nonsense that has been thrown at the male gender (by itself) for three millennia.

    So, let me capsulize it all.  Besides the issue of crotch muscle mastery, there are a few other items of which every man should be aware.  

    1.  If the glands are overfull, it's over before you start.  It is like the bladder.  It can only hold so much semen and may, in actuality, relieve itself when it becomes too full.

   2.  The deep forward thrust (twerking) will squeeze the glands.  It's a musculoskeletal structure issue.  When you twerk (deep forward thrust), you are forcing the crotch into a position that squeezes the glands.  To stimulate the woman, no more than two inch penetration is required.  Save the deep dive (twerking) for the finale.

    3.  The crotch muscles are not involved in movement.  They only seem so because we have paid no attention to them.  They can remain completely disengaged during any movement.  Since we have never taken the crotch muscles seriously, they are not toned.  They are just like an animal's until you learn to really master them.  There are two ways in which the muscles cause ejaculation to begin.  They are flexed and relaxed (even though you may not realize it).  Secondly, they can just quiver, which is even more difficult to detect. The erotic sensations are essentially a form of tickling which causes the crotch muscles to quiver.  Either can start ejaculation.  They can be mastered with ease.

    4.  In order to master these muscles, it is necessary to make them supple and toned and begins to make oneself aware of when they flex and, generally, become familiar with them, sensitive to their actions, and responsive to one's will.

        A.  While I'm sure better exercises can be developed, the following does the job.

        B.  Lying in bed, bend your knees and swing them together and apart.

        C.  There are three different forms of this exercise to perform.

             a.  While swinging them together, tighten the crotch muscles.  While swinging them apart, leave them relaxed.  Do not swing the knees the full extent apart in any of these exercises.  It's not necessary and may not be particularly good for the hip joint.

          b. While swinging them together, relax the crotch muscles.  While swinging them apart, tighten the crotch muscles.  Both of these exercises will tone the crotch muscles and, also, make it apparent that the muscles in the crotch are not involved in movement.

              c.  Swing the knees in both directions without flexing the crotch muscles.

              d.  I do each set thirty times and it takes less than two minutes.

        D. You may want to take longer when you first start the exercises as it is important to assure that you are not flexing the muscles when they are supposed to be relaxed.  A pause at each transition is a good idea.

        E.  Strengthening them is not the point.  Mastery is.

Stimulation

        A crucial point is that stimulating the woman is not as obvious as one might expect.

    The erogenous zone with the most erotic nerve endings is the clitoral nub which is located up to a half an inch outside of the vagina.  This is critical.  If you do no stimulate this clitoral button, it is unlikely you will be stimulating the woman enough to achieve her own orgasm.

All of the woman's erotic nerve endings are within two inches or less of the vaginal opening.  

Note that two inch penetration is more than enough for stimulating the woman.  There is no need to go deeper until taking the finale plunge.  It will initially be critical that you don't go too deep.  That would be twerking.

Edging

One technique that actually seems to work, though it bypasses any effort to actually master the body is 'edging'.  Consider it a shortcut, if necessary, while learning.

The idea is that if you stop all activity when the man begins to become overstimulated, let the overstimulation recede, and begin again, the man can extend his efforts.  He can extend the loving as long as he desires by repeating the process.

It seems to work remarkably well.  More surprising is, after the pause, the span of time and amount of enthusiasm tolerated before ejacutlation seems to increase.

Further thoughts on edging

I am beginning to believe that edging is very complementary to the more sentient rendition of mastering the muscles.  I think there is something further that can be comprehended from a close exploration of edging that will expand the definition of mastery.  I don't think I will get there.

Forms of damage

Self-stimulation

There is no getting around it.  It is almost certain that a man will resort to masturbation at some point, probably very early in his post-puberty life

It is critically important that men learn that, if they self-stimulate without regard, there is a very good chance of damage to their ability to master their bodies and prevent ejaculation until desired.

Habits are hard to break.  So, do not develop bad habits.

Bad habits worth noting are abuse of one's member, overstimulation and not understanding the differences between masturbation and loving coitus.

It can be difficult to achieve climax while self-stimulating.  Basically, a person cannot tickle themselves, which is essentially what erotic sensations are.

The real point, though, is that a man must learn to restrain himself during self-stimulation.  Abuse of his member, in the efforts to attain climax in the shortest amount of time possible (i.e. 'get it over with') can have lasting effects that can trickle over into his efforts on loving coitus.  Bad, bad, bad idea.

Also, the mindset of 'getting it over with' is not a good way to pursue mastery of the body.

More so, the more you can make it like a loving experience with a woman the better.  There are at least two reasons that it is difficult to achieve climax during self-stimulation.  

One cannot 'tickle' oneself.  So, stimulation of the member by using something other than the hand might be a good idea.  No, it's still not the same but may avoid damage.

The other reason is situational.  The positioning and movements vary between loving coitus and masturbation.  For instance,   there may be no hip movement. 

If you have read the previous pages, this should explain well enough.  The movement of the hips, especially twerking, has a lot to do with triggering the beginnings of ejaculation.

Circumcision

I really don't want to get into the mess that we call circumcision.  It is bad.  Period.  Full stop.  If you are of child-bearing age, you should be aware that the doctors may do it without your permission, unless told otherwise.  At least in America.

It won't stop a person from success at loving coitus but it is a sadistic concept and certainly doesn't help anything.  It may or may not make successful loving more difficult.  I am circumcised and I succeeded but I believe my member is oversensitive because of circumcision.  It doesn't matter.  If we ever become human, it will be a thing of the past in short order.

I was just reading an article about how people that have a tonsillectomy at a young age have a much greater chance of developing post traumatic stress symptoms later in life??!!!??

My jaw dropped when I saw the article.  Not so much in shock that circumcision wasn't referenced.  It was just another confirmation on so many levels of the blindness we have acquired as a stupoured animal, when it comes to anything related to coitus.

A few last notes

Be patient, keep up the exercise and become more familiar with your muscles.  Use edging, if necessary, in the meantime.

I promise you, if you are not lasting and you have paid attention to such things as overfull glands and twerking, the muscles in the crotch muscles are still reacting.  More than likely, it is the thought of ecstasy getting in the way of your concentration to make sure the ecstasy is shared by both.  Don't worry, the concentration will also become second nature making the act more fully enjoyable.

    It's just that important to our Humanity that the male gender learns to love.

Matters

• It is not a matter of coitus being the only acceptable form of sex.  It is that coitus - the form of sex that creates life - needs to be as fulfilling as any other form of sex.  It is feelings of unfulfilled sentient obligation that matters.

Clarity

"Love and Lust"

Heart, the closest confidante, nonplussed
By reeling of emotions we should trust
So, when the spinal fire is turned to dust
Love, the infinite, corrodes to lust

Crisis of Identity

Crisis of Identity

The human race remains in the midst of an identity crisis that began the moment we first gained our heightened sentient awareness, creativity, imagination, and the ability to communicate far beyond the bounds of an animal.  

How do  I explain?  Human life remains ensnared in a trap set long before humanity ever walked the Earth.  We have been bombarded by gibberish created by our most ancient and witless ancestors that were dumber than a rock, bewildered by their sentience, and leaning on their animal legacy to explain that which they did not understand.  Our more recent ancestors remain bewildered by the stupour set down ages ago.

There is no reason for it to remain.  The knowledge is finally available to make loving real; make the most natural expression of the physical aspect of love an unassisted success.

Learning how to make coitus into a loving act was too much for earliest man amidst all of the complications of human, sentient life and the subtle mastery of the human body necessary.  Not difficult.  Just subtle and impeded by animal instincts.  

The mental obstructions erected over the millennia have made it even more difficult to ascertain.  We learned to never consider this most important subject because we didn't have the knowledge to succeed and it is critical to the race.  We dumbed it down to an animal's viewpoint.  "Sex is for making babies!!!!"

Enough is now known for any man to succeed with ease.  It is no long a matter of struggling to understand how.  

The biggest difficulty that remains is for enough men break through the fortress of shame, guilt, paranoia, paradigms, and excuses behind which men have been taught to hide and, finally, learn to love.  Then, we begin to become Human.

Secondly, I guess is getting over the inertia of saying, "it's too much trouble."  It is not.  It will be a challenge for the first few that attempt it but that is only because they have been programmed to expect failure.

The failure that seemed inevitable became the voice of each past generation as they admitted defeat and passed on the feeling to their offspring.  "It is a veil of tears, get used to it."  "Sex is cursed, get used to it."  "Knowledge is cursed.  Don't think and definitely don't think about coitus!"  "We were better off as animals."  That is just a sample of some of the verbal conditioning.  The sense of defeat goes much deeper.  

It assures that the next generation starts from a mindset of defeat that is reinforced by fear of mysterious and fictitious supreme beings and other forms of gibberish to make it seem beyond question.  Our spirituality was hijacked to spread that deceit.

"You have to wait until you die for your existence to get better.  Get used to it."  ??!?!?!  This quote, which is an exact interpretation of the insane belief that many follow, is so insane that it seems unbelievable that it remains in modern societies and, yet, it does. 

"We are only human," is the most ghastly expression of the animal's stupour.

Each new generation of prehumanity becomes more convinced that life beyond the animal is no different from the animal.  "Misery, child.  Get used to it."  It has snowballed through the last three millennia as mankind attempted to be something more, while convincing itself that it is not.  

The attempts to educate the mind in the presence of an uneducated heart has been the bane of prehumanity.  It has worsened the madness of a sentient race unprepared for its sentient state.

A sentient race can only attain its sanity, emotional maturity, and fulfill its noble qualities once the male gender learns to love.  Those are the hallmark of a truly sentient race.

Emotional upheaval is the hallmark of a race that is not yet sentient.

We have all been bewitched by nonsense concocted to hide the animal's awful failing that cannot remain for a truly Human, sentient, thinking race.  

There has been a lot to learn about love.  Its essence has finally been revealed.  It is not just some ephemeral intellectual effort.  It is not just a matter of declaring, "love is good" and being done with it.  It cannot be browbeaten into a sentient race.  It cannot be forced or taught through words alone.  There is a physical component that must be shared in intimacy.

Until the choice of the most natural, intimate form of physical love is available for a couple to share, we fail and so does love.  The ability of the male gender to express its love in the most natural manner possible builds a solid foundation on which love can flourish.

Imagine our emerging sentient state as a child that had to make it all up as it went along without the slightest hint as to what it means to be Human.  The complexity and confusion rendered the task nearly incomprehensible.  We attacked it like an animal.  Of course.  The animal instincts still reign in that most important effort to express our Human love.

Make no mistake.  We knew what was missing all along.

That is what made the last three millennia so difficult.  It confounded our sentient awareness.  Paranoia, hate, and misinformation went on a rampage.  We saw that coitus should be a loving event, but it seemed unattainable.  So we shunted the thought aside with prejudice and, with it, our sentience.  

We gave up hope.  The author of Pandora's Box realized this.  Our awareness awakened, but our sentient perspective did not keep pace.  It drove us mad.  

Identity crisis.

We have never been able to put the pieces together and admit what a shambles it has made of human, sentient life.  The species trained itself to just put up with its failure, while never consciously considering it.  We have avoided its contemplation at all costs.

As a sentient race, we have all that is necessary in order to rely on ourselves with confidence rather than put on an act of blind arrogance while avoiding the truth about love.

We can rely on ourselves.  We only need use what Nature has provided.  Nothing else.

If you have a pervasive feeling that all is not right, that would be correct.  Welcome to the first stirrings of your Humanity.  

The crucial inspection that has always been required is not about muons, wavicles, protons, neutrons, quarks, quasars, quadratic equations, fashion, ecology, governments, marketplaces, economics, the supernatural, hair care products, your navel, or the individual quirks of individual representatives of humanity.  The crucial inspection is of humanity itself.  Clarity regarding our own sentient state, far beyond the stupoured domain of the animal, is required.

We have never before been situated to answer the question that is ever-present.  What is wrong with humanity and how do we correct it?

The actual quandary that must be resolved is so central to our existence that we could not even acknowledge the quandary's existence until we were ready to resolve it.

We have been blinded from seriously contemplating the hope that remained in the box.  We thought its contemplation would drive us mad while, in reality, obscuring and  avoiding the subject has done just that.

We have built a fortress of nonsense that prevented us from even articulating the issue, behind which our Humanity lays in chains.

We need to learn to rely on ourselves, not laws, gods, or other meaningless dictates.  Outside forces; like religious beliefs, laws, peer pressure; attempt to manipulate the mind of a sentient race to no avail.  

The will, the confidence, the self-respect to be Human can only come from within, once the success of unassisted Loving Coitus is available to all.

Our dismal, miserable pre-sentient existence is best represented by complete emotional turmoil with a heavy dose of forced blindness.  You can see it everywhere, if you just look.  The source of the madness is obvious.

  Humanity's sentience remains incomprehensible to the human race.  The animal that we remain is fearful and bewildered by the Human we can become.  We have yet to begin our conscious sentient evolution.

This is our crisis of identity.  We still identify with the animal.  

Like an animal, we remain confounded by our sentience and the surface issues created by the animal in order to distract from the animal's failing.