The Great Narrative
There remains a gaping hole in the Great Narrative that prevents humanity from attaining a sane, sentient state. That gaping hole causes the madness, the dystopia.
I hope anyone encountering this site will be patient enough to read as far as Thinking It Through, at least.
The Road Foreword
All men; that is a human, sentient male; can do something they never believed was possible and always desired to do. They desired to do it so desperately that it drove the male gender crazy, derailed our sentient state, and wrecked any hope of humanity becoming what Nature always intended: a loving, emotionally stable and mature, rational, sentient race that respects itself instead of constantly tearing itself down and relying on fictions. "Omigoodness, we're human" rather than "We're only human" is the vast difference.
We are so close to educating the heart that it hurts.
The long answer is a bit more complicated. I'll get into that in later posts.
1. We are completely dependent on coitus (sexual intercourse) for our existence. Without it, we become extinct.
2. For at least three millennia, the sentient race that is human, with its heightened awareness, has realized that there is more to coitus. The selfish results that a witless animal accepts are not suitable for a sentient race.
3. Mutual coital satisfaction was not even conceivable when we first attained our sentient state. The belief became embedded that there was nothing to be done.
4. The prehumans of long ago had no experience, knowledge, or insights regarding improving an act that had been based on the animal's instinctual reaction for hundreds of millions of years. Premises 1, 2, & 3 confounded them. It was so disturbing that they buried the whole issue. That was a disaster.
5. Because of coitus' crucial function, we cannot stop. And, yet, our sentient awareness cannot let it rest. The imbalanced, frustrating situation bent our brains like a pretzel. It is a constant thorn in the side of our humanity. Not only does it obscure the necessary clarity of a sentient existence, it also creates a painful subconscious awareness that the race is not yet worthy of its sentient state.
6. Being sentient and human is all about seeking clarity. Purposely obscuring clarity, leaving a gaping hole in the Great Narrative, drives a sentient race mad.
We know that the human race is not just an animal. We know we can do better than an animal.
Unassisted loving coitus (shared ecstasy) needs to become an expectation, just as walking on two legs and talking are. It's that easy, once we free ourselves from the gaping hole in the Great Narrative. (see "Explanations")
7. Nature provided everything a human male needs to transform coitus into a consistently loving act. A man can be master of his own body because he can think.
8. We created the word love and the words to describe noble qualities, because our sentience sensed them, but never fulfilled them. That is the same sentience that is always seeking clarity. Nature provided all that was necessary to make them real and left it up to us to make it so.
9. Until coitus becomes a loving event, love will continue to corrode into lust, perversions, distrust, delusions, obsessions, aberrations, outright lies, madness, mass destruction, and self-destruction.
It is not utopia that I describe. It is only the lack of dystopia. It is Human, not prehuman. Yes, we will still have problems but they will be sane problem, not a fight between the two genders.
The biggest irony of all is how easy it is for a man to succeed. The male gender has been so certain of failure that it has never even tried.
The phrase "we are only human" says it all. It is the most offensive phrase ever created and, so far, we deserve it. To state it accurately, though, would be to say "we are only prehuman" or, maybe even more appropriate, "woe is me". I look forward to the day that we say, "Omigoodness, we are Human!"
Thinking it through
We have yet to admit what sentience entails.
Our emotional state can mature. Yet, it hasn't. We can think. Yet, we don't.
When it comes to coitus we don't think at all. The topic of sex, in general, is a confused mess of misdirection and entrenched positions.
A race that lives and dies by coitus will breathe a sigh of relief, once coitus suits our human capabilities and awareness. Those that have blindly defended coitus in the absence of mutual ecstasy will no longer harass those that decide to find some other way to achieve the life-altering, mutually transcendent experience of ecstasy.
The defense of the act of coitus is only necessary because it is not the mutually fulfilling experience that a self-aware race expects.
One of the worst results of the situation is the back and forth regarding other forms of sex and the ongoing battle between the genders that go nowhere. We have fixed phrases and mindsets rather than think about anything regarding sex. Everyone blindly defends their choice. Coitus, the act that is lacking in loving expression, is never mentioned. Can you begin to see how blinded we have been on the topic of sex and, particularly, coitus?
Anything remotely related to the subject of sex is taboo because it all leads back to the state of coitus that does not fulfill the expectation of mutual climax that a sentient race, of course, has every reason to expect.
Our thinking has been obstructed regarding the subject of coitus because we know that something is not right and feel helpless. We are not helpless. We have hesitated to explore the missing element for three millennia because of inertia and the facc that our very existence relies on coitus.
As long as it remains lurking in our subconscious unacknowledged, it drives the human race mad.
Of course, the mania spreads from coitus disrupts every other aspect of our existence. How could it not? It is the most essential act of our existence.
Everyone attempts to purge from their minds the seemingly hopeless knot that coitus represents. It will remain lurking, driving us mad, until addressed.
Of late, we have begun to rant about the other forms of sex. Because coitus never enters the conversation, we remain blinded, in constant dismay, anger, and frustration.
Once Loving Coitus becomes an available choice, no one will care what choice is made. We become free from the angst, anxiety, and dismay of lying to ourselves once Loving Coitus exists as a viable alternative.
We have everything it takes to succeed, from the realization that coitus has so much more to offer, to the simple insights, muscle control, and mastery required to make coitus a successful act of love. Men have never realized that extending the act of coital love is dependent on not using the muscles in the crotch. (see Explanations)
Men have been trained to fail for millennia and the male animal for a billion years before that.
For an animal, it is enough that coitus produces babies. It is fundamental for a sentient race to achieve mutual ecstasy, as well. The advanced form of caring that is available to a sentient race begins with fulfillment of the physical aspect of love in the most intimate relationship.
We learn to walk on two legs and talk. We learn to ride a bike and a million other things. Loving Coitus is no different and we are not Human until we accept that we can do so.
We purge the most incredible act of human existence from our brain. The prehuman curses sex because its most natural form, coitus, is found wanting.
Our attitude has been so negative that we don't even consider the possibility of success. We don't talk about it. The thought of success has become taboo, which is utterly insane.
The most incredible, remarkable, amazing, celebratory, ecstatic act of existence for a sentient couple and we sweep it under the rug. Religions curse it. We remain filled with shame and guilt regarding coitus. We can do better.
We cannot manufacture or fabricate our way out of the predicament. That is just another defeat for the prehuman race. It is sentient to make unassisted Loving Coitus work.
All roads lead to unrestrained sentient awareness and a loving state once we realize that the most natural act of creation can also become the most important expression of love between a couple and is essential to fulfilling the concept of love for a sentient race.
I was reading an aphorism the other day that says it well. "When will the power of love overcome the love of power?" When the power of love is unleashed by Loving Coitus.
There are two desires for a human when it comes to coitus. Ecstasy for oneself and one's partner. Anything less drives us mad.
Moving forward
Men need to learn to make the act of coitus an act of love. The first step is to last long enough to make it possible. The rest will come naturally for a sentient being.
Instead, we have created a tempest in a tea cup that has gone on for three millennia to distract from, rather than face, a crucial and unnecessary failure for a sentient race.
It's always been treated as the greatest secret that everybody knows. It is something that everyone has only kept from themselves. We have turned our existence upside down attempting to avoid the beautiful and inevitable conclusion and excuse its absence.
So, read on. Or, not. Keep the secret that is no secret to yourself, just like our dim-witted ancestors have done for the last three millennia.
No getting around it. Men should have been asking themselves and each other all along, "Why can't I last as long as it takes?" The answer is, "you can."
As the human race began to gain its heightened awareness, the male gender had to confront the fact that it wasn't very good at coitus. Each individual male had no idea how good any other male was at coitus because they would be revealing their own ineptness by asking the question. A gaping hole in our awareness was created.
Sentience seeks clarity. The male gender has been hiding from clarity due to this single subject. It is a rock around the neck of humanity.
The bizarre aberrations it has caused in the male gender are numerous. The aberrations never fulfill. They become all-consuming.
Can you realize that even the efforts of the many men that attempt to act gallant and human are not enough? It remains an act. It is mimicking what it means to be human until clarity prevails.
I hope you can see the flaw it has caused in our existence. It is more than dangerous. It is a mortal wound to our sentient state.
The Great Narrative Recap
There remains a gaping hole in the Great Narrative that prevents humanity from attaining a sane, sentient state. It can be gone in the virtual blink of the eye.
The Great Narrative, Part II
When we first emerged into our sentient state of heightened awareness, while much of existence confounded us, there was one particular aspect, one legacy of the animal, that humanity could not confront. It was too much for our feeble-minded ancestors. We are no longer feeble-minded.
For three millennia, as we have learned to comprehend so much about existence, this aspect of the stupoured state of the animal has held us in thrall.
We have yet to allow a close inspection of ourselves. We shunted the most important aspect of sentient emergence into the void.
The Great Conversation, definition
My definition of The Great Conversation differs from those trying to sell books, which is all about the great thinkers (see Aphorisms, for instance). The Great Conversation, to me, is much more comprehensive.
The Great Narrative is a better term for what I am describing. It is the widely accepted state of the human race. The gaping hole in our Humanity and sanity has not been acknowledged in either case.
Many concepts are learned, like are walking on two legs, talking, and writing. They are learned concepts. That is what distinguishes prehumans from animals. Learning Loving Coitus will distinguish the Human race for the prehuman race.
The current Great Narrative
Everyone extrapolates the horrors of our current existence into the future. That is how we got here. That is the current Great Narrative.
Rather than continue that trend, I looked for our potential, found promise, and uncovered that which prevents our Humanity from becoming whole.
We have never gotten past the animal's take on existence. It is laced through every conversation. We continue to look in the rear view mirror and extrapolate it into the future. "Woe is me," seems to succinctly describe the bones of the current Great Narrative.
It is time we change the Narrative.
Let's see if I can put Loving Coitus into the simplest terms.
Men need to learn to make the act of coitus an act of love. The first step is to last long enough to make it possible. The rest will come naturally for a sentient being.
The simplest and most obvious observation is that it shouldn't be so difficult. It isn't. It is only complicated to understand. That and the inability to admit there was a problem has held us in thrall to the animal for millennia.
There is only one reason the act of love is not an act of love. Pressure on the glands in the crotch of the male makes certain it is over too soon. The pressure is applied by the muscles in the crotch and certain positions of the musculoskeletal structure.
That's it. It is simpler muscle control than talking and less coordination than riding a bike. The muscles can be easily trained not to respond, except on command. Once men get the hang of it, it's as easy as walking on two legs.
Got it?
There is far more in Explanations, near the end of the posts.
Conscious evolution
As opposed to genetic evolution, conscious adaptation to circumstances is how a sentient race evolves itself as it seeks clarity. It makes of evolution something that is no longer willy-nilly. We aren't there yet.
Humanity will accelerate its evolution into rational directions, once its sentient cognitive function is liberated. The ability to comprehend so much more than an animal and seek clarity makes us Human. It's not about intelligence. It's about clarity. It is not about educating the mind. It is about educating the heart.
The worst of the prehumans will tell you 'perception is reality'. It is not. Clarity is required.
Conscious evolution is all about recognition, acceptance, and adaptation to sentient realizations (i.e. clarity). Conscious evolution will replace witless revolution for a Human race.
The subconscious is where prehumanity puts realizations that it has not been willing or able to process, just like an animal. That substitutes dismay for clarity.
One subject is so momentous that we attempted to prevent any trace of it remaining. That is, of course, impossible for a sentient race whose awareness seeks answers and demands clarity, irregardless of whether the individual is willing to accept the realizations.
Because Loving Coitus is so momentous, clarity and our sentient state suffered a debilitating blow by obscuring it. As each generation ages, it learns to obscure it entirely from sight. We attempt to teach the obscurity to our children. That is what children have and always will rebel against, until clarity is achieved.
We can think and live consciously, rationally, amidst a mature emotional backdrop of stability and balance by no longer pandering to the animal's witless perception of life.
Aphorisms
(italics are mine)
"Education of the mind without education of the heart is no education at all."
-Aristotle; We have yet to educate the heart
"The smell of a world that is burned"
- Jimi Hendrix
"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace"
-Either Jimi Hendrdix or Mahatma Gandhi
“Power at its most vicious is a riposte to powerlessness.”
- Simone de Beauvoir; Deep and ties well with the one above.
"When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?"
- Eleanor Roosevelt
"Sure he (Fred Astaire) was great, but don't forget that Ginger Rogers did everything he did, ...backwards and in high heels.”
- Bob Thaves, “Frank and Ernest” comic strip
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”
- Martin Luther King, Jr.
"And nothing natural is evil"
-Marcus Aurelius
"The unexamined life is not worth living"
"Let he that would move the world first move himself"
"From the deepest desires often comes the deadliest hate"
- Socrates
"History is a pack of lies about events that never happened told by people who weren't there."
- George Santayana
"The reason why the world lacks unity, and lies broken and in heaps, is, because man is disunited with himself."
"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
"And that's the thing
Do you recognize the bell of truth
When you hear it ring"
-Leon Russell
"For truth is always strange; stranger than fiction."
-Lord Byron
"I've got some words to say about the way we live today.
Why can't we learn to love each other.
It's time to learn a new face for the whole world wide human race."
-Leon Russell
"We are what we repeatedly do. Therefore, excellence is not an act, but a habit."
-Aristotle
"A little learning is a dangerous thing
Drink deep, or taste not the Pierian Spring"
-Alexander Pope
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
― Albert Einstein
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
― George Eliot
“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
― Stephen Chbosky
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt
"I saw ten thousand talkers whose tongues were all broken"
"I try my best to be just like I am
But everybody wants you to be just like them
They say, sing while you're saved and I just get bored"
-Bob Dylan
"One who asks a question feels like a fool for a moment. One who refuses to ask a question feels like a fool for a lifetime." Or, a sentient race remains a fool for millennia.
-Japanese proverb
Humanity remains a dilettante at sentience, a poser. We're on the threshold of something more, something Human.
The human race is doing a fine job of acting like an animal with too much brains and too little sense.
When will the human race be Human with love in its heart and sense in its head?
It's not about the individual being human. It is about the human race being human.
One indication that we have attained our Humanity will be when no one desires to lead or be led.
It's about clarity, not intelligence. Intelligence desperately seeking to obscure clarity drives us mad.
Prehumanity is made of pragmatists and dreamers. Both are lying to themselves. Humanity will be made of pragmatic dreamers seeking clarity.
