The Road Foreword

     The Road Foreword

     All men; that is a human, sentient male; can do something they never believed was possible and always desired to do.  They desired to do it so desperately that it drove them crazy, derailed our sentient state, and wrecked any hope of humanity becoming what Nature always intended:  a loving, emotionally stable and mature, rational, sentient race that respects itself instead of constantly tearing itself down and relying on fictions.  "Omigoodness, we're human" rather than "We're only human" is the vast difference.

     We are so close to educating the heart that it hurts.

     The long answer is a bit more complicated.  I'll get into that in later posts.

 

        Conscious evolution

Conscious adaptation to circumstances is how a sentient race evolves itself as it seeks clarity.  It makes of evolution something that is no longer willy-nilly.  We aren't there yet.

Humanity, once completely liberated by its sentient cognitive function, which is the ability to comprehend so much more than an animal and seek clarity, will accelerate the race's evolution into new directions.  It's not about intelligence.  It's about clarity.  It is not about educating the mind.  It is about educating the heart.

Conscious evolution is all about adaptation to realizations that our sentient, conscious awareness makes apparent.  It is a matter of no longer denying what our sentience reveals.  Animals react to circumstances by instinct and suppress what is not understood.  Conscious evolution will supplant witless revolution for the Human race. 

The subconscious is where a sentient race puts realizations that they have not been willing or able to process, just like an animal.  It substitutes dismay for clarity.  It causes madness as we seek to hide from the clarity our sentient capabilities reveal and demand.  The more momentous the realization, the more difficult it is to suppress.

One such subject is so momentous that we attempted to prevent any trace of it to remain.  That is, of course, impossible for a sentient race whose awareness seeks answers and demands clarity.  

        We become extremely uncomfortable when the subject is broached (so, be prepared). 

Because it is so momentous, clarity suffered a debilitating blow.  As we age, we learn to obscure it entirely from sight.  That is what we attempt to teach our children.  That is what children have and always will rebel against, until the whole truth is revealed.

    We will be truly sentient when we can gather our thoughts as a species and adapt to that which our sentience has made so crystal clear. 

This is a story about what liberates both the mind and the heart of humanity.  We can think and live consciously, rationally, amidst a mature emotional backdrop of stability and balance by no longer pandering to the animal.

Uncanny

1. We are completely dependent on coitus (sexual intercourse) for our existence.  Without it, we become extinct. 

2. No one, man nor woman, is satisfied with the selfish results of the act of coitus when the ecstasy is not mutual.  Oh, yes!  Men are relieved but not satisfied if it is not mutual.  Only a male animal would be satisfied.   A male human is confounded.  There is no reason for it to remain so. 

The two genders suffer to similar extents but in vastly different ways because of this anomaly to human life. 

3.  Early humans became convinced we could do no better than an animal at coitus.  Mutual coital satisfaction was not even conceivable when we first attained our sentient state.  The belief became embedded that there was nothing to be done.

4. The prehumans of long ago had no experience, knowledge, or insights regarding improving an act that had been based in the animal's instinctual reaction for hundreds of millions of years.  Premises 1, 2, & 3 confounded them.  They did not have the wherewithal to cope.  They had no knowledge, yet, to bring to bear.  So they buried the whole issue beneath paradigms of nonsense which have been passed along, generation by generation.  Excuses. 

     Because of coitus' crucial function, we couldn't stop.  Because of our sentient awareness, we could not let it rest.  The sense that coitus could be something more has never gone away.  With each generation, the rebellion continues and will until we become Human.  Our sentience will not let us avoid the issue and previous generations' assurances that "we are only human" are not accepted until the latest generation surrenders, never realizing that our animal past has impeded its very investigation at a phenomenal level.  The stupoured state of the animal would not let us succeed.  Until now.

We buried the truth in the subconscious where it has festered.  Instead, we create pills rather than fulfill our sentient state.  That is nothing short of insane.

The simple fact is that, like it or not, coitus must continue or we do not.  That, combined with sentient awareness of the imbalanced, frustrating situation without achieving resolution bent our brains like a pretzel.

5. Being sentient and human, we know better.  

We know that the human race is not just an animal.  We know we should be able to do better than an animal.   (We can; I did; see "Explanations")  

Unassisted loving coitus (shared ecstasy) needs to become an expectation, just as walking on two legs and talking are.  It's that easy, once we rid ourselves of relying on the animal's instincts.  It is the next step in attaining our Humanity.

6. Sentient conscious awareness changed everything.  It made us aware of what was missing.  It also made us aware that it should not be missing.  It put the two sentiently aware genders at odds with each other and our animal legacy at odds with our sentient aspirations, capabilities, and conscious awareness.  

7. Nature provided everything a human male needs to transform coitus into a consistently loving act.  As I delve deeper, it is so simple that it would be amazing that it was never discovered before, if it weren't for the brain interruptus during ecstasy.  The man takes and woman gives.  That is learned in bed.  It continues to stunt our development.   Selfish results force the stupour to remain.

A man can be master of his own body.  We have just never applied our sentience awareness to the issue because we could not tolerate the failure and awareness, simultaneously.  One had to go.  Since failure was beyond previous generations to overcome, awareness was sacrificed.

8.  We created the word love, because our sentience sensed it.  We were left to our own devices to create the circumstances to fulfill it.  Nature gave us all that was required and left it to us.  Lately, we have become increasingly convinced that love is only gibberish.  We have always underestimated love.

Love starts with physical love.  While we call anything involving sex, "making love", it is only mutual ecstasy that suits the term.

9.  Because of the inertia of the animal and self-inflicted obstructions, it became nearly impossible for the male human to contemplate the situation at all, much less realize they are not constrained by the same limitations as animals when it comes to the act of coitus.  We became caught in a rut of many dimensions.   Men will succeed with ease, once our sentience has a chance to clear away the cobwebs.  We have been immersed in a delusion for three thousand years.

10. Men remain constrained by preconceptions that lead them to fail by treating the event as an animal would.  Once free of the misconceptions, men will find they can succeed with ease.

11.  The existing situation renders the male gender, in particular, mad (the female gender gets there by exposure to the madness of the other half of the human race over the last three millennia).   Sorry, guys, but you really need to admit this to yourself.

It's not like men enjoy going mad over a lifetime as they repeatedly fail to express their love.  

For a sentient race, there can be so much more to coitus and we know it.  It can become a loving act, not just the rutting of animals.  Until that happens, love will continue to corrode into lust, perversions, distrust, delusions, obsessions, aberrations, outright lies, madness, mass destruction, and self-destruction. 

The physical act of sharing love in a decisively human way initiates the loving, sentient state.  Coitus is the crucial act that fulfills our existence in a way that animals could never even dream.

It is not utopia.  It is just no longer dystopia.  It is Human.

We have clung to the outdated concepts of the animal for far too long. 

Coitus is stripped bare of all of its tremendous and essential human potential every time it ends all too soon, which is the most common case.  Loving coitus is human.

The biggest irony of all is how easy it is for a man to succeed.  That is, any human, thinking male.  The male gender is so certain of failure that it has never accepted the concept that they can succeed.  Their perspective remained too close to an animal's instincts and pretext.

To summarize: we cannot live in a sentient manner while coitus remains in its animal rendition and we certainly cannot exist without coitus.  We remain caught within the bizarre world of the animal's stupour, far from the magnificent existence that a sentient, loving landscape can provide.

The phrase "we are only human" says it all.  It is the most offensive phrase ever created and, so far, we deserve it.  To state it accurately, though, would be to say "we are only prehuman."  I look forward to the day that we say, "Omigoodness, we are Human!"

A race was born with far too much intellect and capability for an animal's circumstances, along with an ongoing and increasing bent towards emotional upheaval until they fulfill its cornerstone.  

The race was given the key to exceed the expectations of the animal, succeed at life, put away the stupour of the animal, end the ceaseless and stupid fighting, and become a loving, balanced, rational, emotionally stable, human, sentient race.  No dystopia.

Further Attempt At Clarification

There are two desires for a human when it comes to coitus.  Ecstasy for oneself and one's partner. Animals haven't the wit to comprehend what is missing nor the wit to do anything about it.  We do.

Expectations

  Expectations

The trickiest part of transitioning from beast to sentient being has to do with expectations set by previous generations and the potential available that is far beyond the grasp of the previous generations.  Even if they try, they garble it, sometimes making it worse.

The effect of past generations will always remain, to some extent but, at certain points, like now, a reset presents itself.  That is what loving coitus will provide or, at least, the conscious awareness of loving coitus.  Attempting to hide it away in the subconscious where it has always hid, could never work.  It cannot hide from a sentient, conscious mind.  All it can do is lurk in the subconscious where it festers, if it is not addressed.    Its success resets us into a sentient perspective on life.

Clarity fulfills the sentient state while, simultaneously, making way for love.  A sentient state of mind that no lesser animal can achieve is required.  

        It doesn't happen because someone has been grinding away in your ear about how to exist in a sentient manner, or that 'all you need is love', as if it were there at your beck and call by thinking hard and working at it.  

    It springs forth from a sentient being that has fulfilled their sentience by retaining its self-respect and ability to think clearly for a lifetime, always seeking clarity amidst a backdrop of clarity as a foundation.  Distortions, delusions, will be detected with ease in such an environment.  

        Our trajectory of life remains stunted by the animal's witless stubbornness: "we don't know and we don't wanna know." Wah, wah, wah.  That's not Human.  It is not even conceivable for a human, sentient mind.  

        Humanity cannot fulfill itself unless it achieves clarity.  Only one subject impedes that clarity. 

We shake our heads free of the stupour of the animal by learning how to succeed at love in its physical form and, voila!, we can take the human, sentient perspective of love.

One of the biggest problems is we were forced to define love in animal terms because we could not imagine what it really means to love in a sentient space.  The animal's definition of 'caring' doesn't fit.  It never has.  It is not enough for a sentient race that knows better.  There is more to loving than our ancestors ever imagined or animals even conceive.

We need to finally learn to rely on our human instincts of clarity rather than the stupefaction instincts of the animal.

The absence of fulfilling love and clarity, of course, radiates outward into every single one of our dealings, interactions, and relationships making for a very crude approximation of Human interaction.  

        Fulfilling the intimate relationship changes everything.  Every interaction is changed.

The key that releases the flood gates of our humanity past the restrictions of the animal is loving coitus.    We break the chains of the animal, once and for all, by being Human in the way that counts.

The stupoured state of the animal clashes with the presence of mind of a sentient race.  The animal has to give way to the Human.  Clarity typifies the Human state.  Stupour is the animal state.

The human can finally communicate without all of the clamorous distractions.  We have always needed to thrash our way through the lies the animal created in its shock after attaining human capabilities that can perceive Loving Coitus with clarity.

There is another vector we can follow on expectations, as well.  I was thinking of a conversation that I had with a friend a long time ago. 

Anyways, weird conversation that led nowhere except for my realization, now, probably ten or fifteen years later, that men are so convinced that they have tried everything that they quit looking a long time ago, like three millennia ago; and they all feel like an expert on the subject.  They don't want to talk about it.  A measly two or three minutes as the best to be expected was accepted blindly down through the ages.  About three millennia ago, men gave up.  Then, the excuses, paradigms of nonsense, and distractions from rational thought began and continues to flourish.

Our expectations are based on the animal's perspective on things reinforced by the incapability of our ancient ancestors to do anything about it.  It was beyond their measure.  Not ours.  Men pursued muscle strength rather than mastery.  Mastery is easier and changes the ground rules completely.

Men expect to fail at loving coitus.  Once the male gender expects to succeed, everything changes.  Everything.

    Worse yet, is the insidious paranoia it causes in the male gender.  One never becomes entirely convinced that one's own failing is common.  The human sentient mind (rightly so) cannot comprehend the male gender failing at their physical expression of love.  That is correct.  The best our ancient ancestors could do about it was hide until it became comprehensible for an advanced sentient race (that's us).

What makes it really depressing is not that men have not been able to succeed at sharing, but that men begin to feel unworthy of (and maybe betrayed by) love (and life) as life progresses.  Men's reactions to the impetus of feelings of unworthiness are a scattershot all over the emotional spectrum and our existence (think nuclear bombs).  From feelings of defeat to the pompous, bombastic behaviour, it all has one source.  It just gets worse as a man ages.

Underneath it all is bewilderment and confusion.  

"That ain't right!" is the only acceptable reaction.  I chased that phrase across a lifetime and, I think, unravelled it in a fairly comprehensive description of success in Explanations.  

Complete success within two generations seems likely, once a few men decide they would rather love than hide.  

It took me a lifetime just to figure out that it was a problem we had not faced and, in fact, buried beneath three millennia of shame.  The post Explanations should ease the way.

It's a big deal.  None bigger.  It makes us Human.

We will finally treat our bodies, our lovers, life, love and exisxtence with respect rather than shame. 

    

 

A brief explanation (not that brief)

I've been putting this off for a long time.  I've known that I needed to rewrite Explanations into a more concise form as I fear that the length might intimidate some.  Explanations (the long version) is still available but I thought it would be worthwhile to begin with a short, more straightforward version.

I hope it helps.

I am sure this will be improved upon in generations to come but this is the essence.  It is enough to succeed without trouble though, of course, some effort is required, especially for the first generation to achieve their Humanity.  I even think there is a very good chance that someone else today could already explain it a lot more clearly than I have.  Wish they would.

Explanations

  Let's see if I can put loving coitus into the simplest terms.

The simplest and most obvious observation is that it shouldn't be so difficult.  It isn't.  It is only complicated to understand.   That has held us in thrall of the animal.

There is only one reason the act of love is not.  Pressure on the glands in the crotch of the male.  The pressure is applied by the muscles in the crotch and certain positions of the musculoskeletal structure.  

       It is all about mastering muscles. That is something a human can do and an animal cannot.  That's it.  It is simpler muscle control than talking and less coordination than riding a bike.  The muscles can be easily trained not to respond, except on command. Once men get the hang of it, it's as easy as walking on two legs.

Got it?

    The biggest problem with coitus is that we have never accepted that the beginning of ejaculation can be delayed as long as necessary by a human, sentient man.  Instead, men have struggle to delay the results of ejaculation after it has already begun.

    The muscles in the crotch can be mastered to avoid ever beginning ejaculation.

     I know how difficult it was for me to overcome the barrage of nonsense that has been thrown at the male gender (by itself) for three millennia.

    So, let me capsulize it all.  Besides the issue of crotch muscle mastery, there are a few other items of which every man should be aware.  

    1.  If the glands are overfull, it's over before you start.  It is like the bladder.  It can only hold so much semen and may, in actuality, relieve itself when it becomes too full.

   2.  The deep forward thrust (twerking) will squeeze the glands.  It's a musculoskeletal structure issue.  When you twerk (deep forward thrust), you are forcing the crotch into a position that squeezes the glands.  To stimulate the woman, no more than two inch penetration is required.  Save the deep dive (twerking) for the finale.

    3.  The crotch muscles are not involved in movement.  They only seem so because we have paid no attention to them.  They can remain completely disengaged during any movement.  Since we have never taken the crotch muscles seriously, they are not toned.  They are just like an animal's until you learn to really master them.  There are two ways in which the muscles cause ejaculation to begin.  They are flexed and relaxed (even though you may not realize it).  Secondly, they can just quiver, which is even more difficult to detect. The erotic sensations are essentially a form of tickling which causes the crotch muscles to quiver.  Either can start ejaculation.  They can be mastered with ease.

    4.  In order to master these muscles, it is necessary to make them supple and toned and begins to make oneself aware of when they flex and, generally, become familiar with them, sensitive to their actions, and responsive to one's will.

        A.  While I'm sure better exercises can be developed, the following does the job.

        B.  Lying in bed, bend your knees and swing them together and apart.

        C.  There are three different forms of this exercise to perform.

             a.  While swinging them together, tighten the crotch muscles.  While swinging them apart, leave them relaxed.  Do not swing the knees the full extent apart in any of these exercises.  It's not necessary and may not be particularly good for the hip joint.

          b. While swinging them together, relax the crotch muscles.  While swinging them apart, tighten the crotch muscles.  Both of these exercises will tone the crotch muscles and, also, make it apparent that the muscles in the crotch are not involved in movement.

              c.  Swing the knees in both directions without flexing the crotch muscles.

              d.  I do each set thirty times and it takes less than two minutes.

        D. You may want to take longer when you first start the exercises as it is important to assure that you are not flexing the muscles when they are supposed to be relaxed.  A pause at each transition is a good idea.

        E.  Strengthening them is not the point.  Mastery is.

Stimulation

        A crucial point is that stimulating the woman is not as obvious as one might expect.

    The erogenous zone with the most erotic nerve endings is the clitoral nub which is located up to a half an inch outside of the vagina.  This is critical.  If you do no stimulate this clitoral button, it is unlikely you will be stimulating the woman enough to achieve her own orgasm.

All of the woman's erotic nerve endings are within two inches or less of the vaginal opening.  

Note that two inch penetration is more than enough for stimulating the woman.  There is no need to go deeper until taking the finale plunge.  It will initially be critical that you don't go too deep.  That would be twerking.

Edging

One technique that actually seems to work, though it bypasses any effort to actually master the body is 'edging'.  Consider it a shortcut, if necessary, while learning.

The idea is that if you stop all activity when the man begins to become overstimulated, let the overstimulation recede, and begin again, the man can extend his efforts.  He can extend the loving as long as he desires by repeating the process.

It seems to work remarkably well.  More surprising is, after the pause, the span of time and amount of enthusiasm tolerated before ejacutlation seems to increase.

Further thoughts on edging

I am beginning to believe that edging is very complementary to the more sentient rendition of mastering the muscles.  I think there is something further that can be comprehended from a close exploration of edging that will expand the definition of mastery.  I don't think I will get there.

Forms of damage

Self-stimulation

There is no getting around it.  It is almost certain that a man will resort to masturbation at some point, probably very early in his post-puberty life

It is critically important that men learn that, if they self-stimulate without regard, there is a very good chance of damage to their ability to master their bodies and prevent ejaculation until desired.

Habits are hard to break.  So, do not develop bad habits.

Bad habits worth noting are abuse of one's member, overstimulation and not understanding the differences between masturbation and loving coitus.

It can be difficult to achieve climax while self-stimulating.  Basically, a person cannot tickle themselves, which is essentially what erotic sensations are.

The real point, though, is that a man must learn to restrain himself during self-stimulation.  Abuse of his member, in the efforts to attain climax in the shortest amount of time possible (i.e. 'get it over with') can have lasting effects that can trickle over into his efforts on loving coitus.  Bad, bad, bad idea.

Also, the mindset of 'getting it over with' is not a good way to pursue mastery of the body.

More so, the more you can make it like a loving experience with a woman the better.  There are at least two reasons that it is difficult to achieve climax during self-stimulation.  

One cannot 'tickle' oneself.  So, stimulation of the member by using something other than the hand might be a good idea.  No, it's still not the same but may avoid damage.

The other reason is situational.  The positioning and movements vary between loving coitus and masturbation.  For instance,   there may be no hip movement. 

If you have read the previous pages, this should explain well enough.  The movement of the hips, especially twerking, has a lot to do with triggering the beginnings of ejaculation.

Circumcision

I really don't want to get into the mess that we call circumcision.  It is bad.  Period.  Full stop.  If you are of child-bearing age, you should be aware that the doctors may do it without your permission, unless told otherwise.  At least in America.

It won't stop a person from success at loving coitus but it is a sadistic concept and certainly doesn't help anything.  It may or may not make successful loving more difficult.  I am circumcised and I succeeded but I believe my member is oversensitive because of circumcision.  It doesn't matter.  If we ever become human, it will be a thing of the past in short order.

I was just reading an article about how people that have a tonsillectomy at a young age have a much greater chance of developing post traumatic stress symptoms later in life??!!!??

My jaw dropped when I saw the article.  Not so much in shock that circumcision wasn't referenced.  It was just another confirmation on so many levels of the blindness we have acquired as a stupoured animal, when it comes to anything related to coitus.

A few last notes

Be patient, keep up the exercise and become more familiar with your muscles.  Use edging, if necessary, in the meantime.

I promise you, if you are not lasting and you have paid attention to such things as overfull glands and twerking, the muscles in the crotch muscles are still reacting.  More than likely, it is the thought of ecstasy getting in the way of your concentration to make sure the ecstasy is shared by both.  Don't worry, the concentration will also become second nature making the act more fully enjoyable.

    It's just that important to our Humanity that the male gender learns to love.