Excerpt from Childhood's End, an upcoming book.
Sequence of events
This is the most concise description yet regarding how the madness rolls out. I hope it overcomes any barriers that have caused people to hesitate to embrace the change that leads to our humanity.
To me, at least, it describes well the most complex, obscure aspect of our mad state of retaining the stupour. The aspect that has had us bewildered for three millennia. We have avoided confronting the central aspect of what disturbs the race because of this sequence of events in each individual's life that bewilders all.
The initiating event is the most perplexing aspect, even more so than how and why success at Loving Coitus is so important. It contains the reason Loving Coitus is so important and why it has been so difficult to unearth. It is that which made it so difficult for our ancestors to fathom everything essential regarding sentient life.
While it will be described in terms of individuals, it applies to every aspect of the human endeavor for the last three millennia of madness as it proceeded to accelerate off course.
It increased the confusion over the millennia and, simultaneously, became semi-consciously apparent at an earlier and earlier age as our sentient awareness progressed.
I think I can finally detail the sequence and branches of events describing our mad prehuman state at the individual level to a very fine degree.
Before I do so, though, I want to stress for the umpteenth time, it does not need to remain this way. It is because of these events that many men have excused themselves from their Humanity for the past three millennia. If we want to remove the madness, we must stop creating demented men.
Men can become wholly human with very little difficulty. Explanations in Fusion may be the easiest way for men to proceed.
The youthful population will be most open and inclined to removing the obstacle against which all youthful generations have rebelled, gotten nowhere, then, finally, become part of the problem because they could never identify what was wrong. The rebellion has never had a target.
Youthful rebellion and the absence of results tells you a lot about how obscure the root cause of our madness remains.
Youth will most easily learn to love rather than rebel, as they begin to realize what is wrong. I become more and more convinced it has been on the tip of everyone's tongue for close to a century. So, as painful as the past may seem, still, the youthful rebellion has been accumulating success in a painfully slow manner.
Youth can finally enter puberty with the certainty that they can finally begin to overturn our despicable past and express their love without shame, confusion, disruption, or denial.
For the older generations, it is most important to realize that we are on the verge of our Humanity. It is your obligation to avoid exacerbating the awful prehuman condition to indulge your own brand of madness and give humanity the room to become Human. In other words, if it is the best you can do, just get out of the way.
I know, in the long run, loving will become entirely natural for the human race. So natural that the men two or three generations from now will wonder why it took so long to achieve. I'm just anxious for us to begin.
I'm looking forward to a sentient life in which we are all finally Human. Soonest.
W
Initiating event of madness
The initiating event for the debacle of our past could be considered puberty itself but that passes by with little fanfare. That is not the life-altering event that defines the crucial difference and divide between men and women.
There are many events that lead up to the initiating event. The first attraction to someone that makes the pulse race. The first touch. The first kiss. The raging hormones. They all set the stage.
The life changing event, that turns the world upside down, is that first experience of coitus.
The difference, the divergent journey of the two genders, and accumulation of misinterpretations, begins right there.
For the man, it is the surge of ecstasy that overwhelms the senses during that first coital engagement. In its presence, all else fades into the background - including the realization that the woman did not in share the ecstasy.
He is drawn to repeat the ecstasy, and, simultaneously, repelled by his failure to provide the same. The most curious aspect is that the male gender hasn't ever entirely consciously accepted the failure. How could anyone under such duress expect to retain their sanity in its entirety?
The compulsion to repeat the ecstasy, reinforced by the criticality of procreation to which the female gender cannot disagree, compounds the confusion in the male gender's mind caused by his (unnecessary) inability to achieve ecstasy for the woman. The male gender, thus, goes awry.
The man is fully aware of all of these aspects, though the unpleasant ones are shunted to the subconscious in a futile attempt to avoid the realizations. It doesn't ever work.
The best of men find some way to cope with the disappointment and ameliorate the consequences but, still, it haunts. Others bend their sentient perspective so irretrievably as to revel in their madness, gloating over power, money, or some other false false flag to substitute for their waning humanity. It drives them entirely mad.
Do you wonder how the madness prevails when we have never before even been able to pinpoint it?
While the failure is shunted aside by the wonder of ecstasy, it does not vanish. Not for a sentient being. It sinks in, deeper and deeper, gnawing away within the subconscious for a lifetime and three millennia. It is exacerbated by deceit, delusions, excuses, and mad justifications (think InCel).
How disorienting to have ecstasy and failure occur simultaneously and repeatedly, on a regular basis. Few recover entirely. The desire and physiological urge to repeat the ecstasy shunts the ever-present failure aside, distorting everything in its path.
He yearns for his next bout of ecstasy while despising his inability to make it whole for the woman. The mind is twisted like a pretzel.
As the years wear on and the sexual drive urges him to achieve sexual release again and again, his dysfunctional awareness of the failure wears on his soul.
The defining difference between the genders that makes all the difference in the long run is that the woman does not fail to pleasure the man. She does not become disoriented by the necessity of contending with this bizarre set of circumstances. She never need to lie to herself to maintain anything resembling a coherent self-image. What her thoughts contain in the aftermath of this debacle are beyond me to speculate.
The woman is not set up to question her very existence, her worthiness as a Human throughout her lifetime. The disappointment of failure is not hers with which to contend. The dysfunction and disorienting effects do not occur for the woman.
Because of this radical separation of perspectives, the two genders have never seen eye to eye.
The man's doubts immediately begin to gnaw away at him, eating away at his self-image and continues to do so over his lifetime.
To reaffirm his self-image, he has to deceive himself and the delusions begin. This anomaly, resulting in self-deceit, began the avalanche of lies that has always been threatening to overwhelm the human race.
Deceit is not a natural trait for a sentient race in full inhabitance of its sentient state. It is a false trail set by the animal mindset that continues to coexist.
Rutting coitus has been justified by the fundamental purpose of procreation, as if that excuses a sentient race from taking an animal's act and transforming it into their own Human equivalent by making it a loving act of sharing.
The human race transforms every thing of importance - other than coitus. In the absence of the transformation of coitus into a loving event, everything else that humanity has touched becomes questionable. We continue to twist.
Nobody wins as long as mutual ecstasy remains absent for any that indulge in coitus. It's not even a win-lose situation as all experience failure, in one form or another.
We have always been awaiting and yearning for the loving event to be fulfilled eye to eye.
Subsequent events
The immediately subsequent events are just about written in stone, until the male gender learns to love.
The man is driven to continue to seek ecstasy due to his physiological demand for sexual release. It increasingly haunts him. His only recourse is to lash out or fade from view.
A common response is for the man to seek to rid himself of the sense of failure by chasing after endeavors with only remnants of his mind left. This only exacerbates humanity's problems as he creates distractions for himself and everyone else from the bane that haunts his life.
The male gender, as a whole, has tried to excuse, explain, and justify the issue in more and more outrageous deceptions they tell themselves rather than face up to the fact that rutting coitus is not satisfactory for a human, sentient race. The whole of the male gender remains in hiding.
It leads to the human race's diminishing self-image. All because they have never taken a moment to realize they can succeed at Loving Coitus.
Can you begin to see how this upsets the balance of sanity for the whole of the race? How it disorients the race? How it causes unnecessary conflict and confusion? How it created the desire for scapegoats more than three millennia ago? How the finger-pointing began? How it has continued to erupt at any hint that something is wrong with the human race? How it disorients the entire human race's endeavors?
Men have avoided the confrontation due to the instincts ingrained in the animal that no longer apply to a human. They tell the man there is nothing to be done.
There is plenty to be done by a sentient race that thinks and has mastery of its own body to an extraordinary degree.
As time wears on for the individual male, their emotional state begins to resemble a vacuum. The joy of sex becomes replaced by the obsession for sex and their own ecstasy to the exclusion of rational thought. The gnawing awareness continues to grow that it is not sufficient for his sentient awareness.
A void develops in the male perspective. The mind begins to break. The emotions become unhinged. It is disguised behind a facade of confidence that crumbles in a fundamental way at the slightest threat.
The toxic caricature has developed into an armoured response, ready to go to extreme violence rather than allow the truth to become evident. There is always a facade to camouflage the secret as the mental conflict between simultaneous success and failure becomes intolerable.
The desire for sex becomes furtive rather than romantic.
Even those that indulge some other form of sex, realize it is not a substitute, not an alternative to providing mutual ecstasy through Loving Coitus. It is not a free choice. It is forced.
The characteristics of the worst become even more furtive, emboldened by the male camaraderie to never mention the secret but, instead, use extremes of mad behaviour to distract, behind which they can hide and continue to fail miserably at treating the female gender and the whole of the human race with the slightest degree of respect (a fundamental noble characteristic). They become mesmerized by seizing the moment, their moment, at the expense of the race.
As time wears on for the race, the void becomes increasingly obscured, obfuscated, by the mad antics of the male gender that, in large part, are meant to obscure this disaster lurking in their subconscious by creating other disasters that, in actuality are much more severe and force attention due to the immediacy of the violence away from their inadequacy. It has been a game of distractions for three millennia, at least.
The camaraderie of the male gender may best be described as circling the wagons to protect the ludicrous secret that only keeps them from realizing their sentient potential of love. This personifies the definition of Topsy-Turvy and irony. The camaraderie reinforces the desire to remain in a stupour. The male gender has not been able to confront the issue ... and, thus, remains in a stupour. How ironic that they have been running away from that which will fulfill the self-respect for which they fight so hard to never admit that they have lost.
The underhanded behaviour that develops to extremes in some are meant to distract from glaring the spotlight on their perceived weakness (which is only a weakness for an animal!). It can be replaced, in a Human, by the strength of Loving Coitus, created by our Human capabilities that make us more than an animal in every way. Until we do, we remain an animal in all ways.
Branching events
There are so many branches to men's response to this awful situation that develop and run counter to confronting the event. I will only mention a few, the most extreme responses.
Note, though, that those that "keep their heads" still suffer and still exacerbate the situation until the burden is gone.
There are the very few over the millennia that have had the will and insight to overcome their failure to any useful extent; enough to, at least, make the act fully ecstatic for the woman.
Another branch is composed of those that intentionally seek to blind themselves to their failure by supplanting it with an obsession in some other area of human endeavor. This only emphasizes the void. The void cannot be filled by anything other than attaining our sanity. This attempt to fill the void creates an increasingly bitter approach to life. Seeking fulfillment in some other way just emphasizes the emptiness. Often that fulfillment becomes supported by the mistreatment of women.
There are those that feel the defeat from the beginning and fold their hand early in life by seeking some form of surcease from the pain of the gender's failure. This includes just keeping one's head down and getting by.
Only success at Loving Coitus, at the level of the Human race and the Sentient Narrative, ends the carousel of madness.
One particular branch
There are multiple branches that accept the failure and move on. That is still just avoidance. In no case, does it resolve the issue. It continues to lurk. It continues to cause pain for everyone.
One of the most interesting is the overall effect caused by the gay movement. It has increasingly forced the issue to the forefront, even though everyone, on all sides, avoids mentioning rutting coitus, the culprit.
The glaring light brought on by its absence from discussion, highlights rutting coitus. This is why it so upsets many in the conventional heterosexual crowd. The discussion gets way too close to the issue they are desperate to conceal.
I must also highlight that many folks are gay because they are so repelled by the toxic and offensive male heterosexual behaviour and/or the less than optimum results obtained from rutting coitus.
It is certainly one of the reasons that many become gay. I always refer anyone that has doubts to Dawson's Creek. The author is the main character. He details very well how and why he became gay, which was for no other reason than his disappointing and disastrous encounters with heterosexuality.
This does not imply this is the only reason a person turns to someone of their own gender for intimacy or takes on characteristics of the opposite gender. It seems most likely that there are other reasons, as well. Only time will tell. If we ever succeed at making coitus a Human, loving event.
I'm sorry if this offends you but this is all about facing all of the truth amidst the mountain of lies that we have continued to tell ourselves and embellish almost daily on all fronts.
Aftereffects
The fear to which men's subconscious has increasingly clung is that they can never be Human enough to love a woman the way she deserves. This initiates and sustains despair, misery, and hopelessness on the scale of the human race. The following are some of the most common aftereffects.
These are a sampling of the topsy-turvy effects that are widespread amongst the human race. There is no way I could cover them all. I guess one could say that I am just trying to pry your minds open to see our truth. The rest will, then, present themselves.
Of course, there are quirks that are very specific to an individual or a small portion of the population. I am not going to get into that at all.
I intend to delve into the broad general characteristics that effect a great portion of the male gender and, thereby, the whole of humanity. The quirks that are seen on a daily basis.
One is the absolutely mad determination to express their toxicity that has become a standard for a great portion of the male gender throughout time, due to their incapacity to confront the situation and realize it can change. It often resembles a mad monkey raging away to get attention. They flaunt the toxicity as if they are proud of it. As if it proves something other than their madness.
Instead, all they have ever needed to do is realize they are not just an animal. They can think. Thereby, they can change their circumstances and succeed at that which they have always dreaded, and despaired was impossible because it is impossible for an animal.
Romance
This is maybe the most difficult aftereffect to comprehend. Romance often dies aborning or becomes off-kilter, as the male begins to feel insufficient to the task of Loving Coitus. Even the least compromised cases are hampered by the realization.
Romance will blossom, in its sentient form, once men feel confident in themselves and their gender regarding their overall success of loving. Loving leads to romance. Romance does not necessarily lead to love.
Romance has been deformed into a scheme to get women in bed rather than a lifelong joy and celebration, that will be natural for a Human being.
Denial
The oft-heard complaint by men that the sexual problem is with the woman (think InCel) highlights precisely their denial of responsibility. I won't even get into the extremes that this offensive mindset has taken, except to mention InCel in passing because it is so despicable.
It is the self-deceit of the male gender going to great lengths to justify their failure at making coitus a Loving, Human event rather than confronting it, once and for all.
They have never been able to face up to their failure and realize it need not remain a failure.
This is the most crucial proof that the situation is destructive to human existence.
It is the superstructure on which the facade of toxic arrogance, self-importance, and strutting fraudulent, fabricated, artificial confidence and pride are erected by the worst of the worst and shared, to some extent, by all.
Deceit
Another grave error that the prehuman existence has accepted without the blink of an eye is the deceits in which the prehuman condition is inundated.
It is not a natural occurrence for a sentient race to lie. It is just another ramification of the act of coitus remaining an animal event and humanity remaining in a prehuman condition that derailed our pursuit of sentient clarity.
The male gender learned to lie before it learned to love.
The ramifications of millennia
The one aspect of our mess this hasn't explained entirely is the bizarre behaviour that occurs in some prepubescence and just carries on from there throughout a lifetime. These are often the most severe affects of madness. I would hope you can get there on your own but I can't rely on it, so...
(the title of this subsection is a hint)
I do go into this, to some extent, in Sentience and maybe other books, but I will expand on the topic a little.
Everyone is influenced by role models while still prepubescent from the time of their birth.
Many pass on entirely offensive, insane, deceitful characteristics and the young may very likely imprint on those offensive characteristics particularly, and ironically, if they struggle to avoid it.
It's like quicksand. The more you struggle to remain above, the more you sink in. The best way to survive the madness of the worst role models is to inspect it like a bug under a microscope, while never responding at all.
The best role models to date, on the other hand, attempt to provide the essentials of noble characteristics, even though the basic tenets for them remain absent.
The specific role models and results are as much dependent on the millennia long cultural development of a particular region of the world as it is on individual role models.
The most offensive role models seem to exist in all cultures, though the percentage and nuances may vary significantly due to cultural factors.
Role models are how the prepubescent learn offensive traits before they are exposed to the life-altering failure for themselves.
The post-pubescent failure to learn to love establishes those offensive characteristics in a way that becomes embedded for a lifetime.
Most of these most awful faulty characteristics are reinforced, generation after generation, by abusive treatment from the day of birth or shortly thereafter.
Emphasis
The point is that in all cases, success at loving, post-pubescence, will allow almost anyone to shrug off the burden of lies, shame, and guilt that has plagued the male gender all along. The toxic characteristics will no longer apply or become reinforced by the failure that derails the mind.
My own events of further enlightenment
In this context, about all that I can say, is I always rejected the concept that coitus could not become successful for all of mankind. Rather than duping myself into believing I am superiour to a woman or yielding to some alternative due to the absence of Loving Coitus, I stewed for thirty or so years. No, it wasn't pleasant but nothing about the prehuman condition is pleasant, so I don't really feel particularly deprived.
The alternatives were not the problem. It was the absolute conviction that Loving Coitus was not going to happen that prevented me from considering any of the alternatives. Call me stubborn, if you please.
Yeah, it caused a lot of pain for me but you are not doing any better. You just haven't admitted it yet.
Educating the heart
In essence, what happens is the male heart becomes hardened, the emotional landscape becomes barren.
While I love Aristotle's quote regarding education of the heart as it stirred me to look deeper. In retrospect, the evidence shows that the heart does not need education. What it requires is not to be treated to the brutal misery that male hearts have endured for the last three millennia.
The best of women are the best evidence that the heart begins educated.
The education of the male heart that comes naturally with the sentient state goes to pieces when confronted with the failure to make coitus more than an animal experiences.
It is an experience that no woman ever encounters.
Ages past
The more I think about the ease with which the male gender slipped into the role of madness and rejection of the slightest possibility that Loving Coitus could succeed, the more I have to consider that the downsides of rutting coitus might have been apparent long before humanity ever roamed the Earth.
In other words, primates and, maybe even some other species of animals, had a glimmering that something was missing from coitus long before humanity. There is proof, of sorts, in the primates antics.
The Blues
I ask again, as I asked a very long time ago, do you now understand from where the Blues came? Why the Blues has remained such a vague term and successful genre?
The Healing Event
Once the male gender becomes convinced they can love a woman and, thereby, finally respect itself, the healing will begin. We will be well on our way to Being Human.
It frees the male gender to love and explore romance, once men begin to understand that they can succeed at Loving Coitus without the slightest outside assistance.
I have spent a great deal of time surveying the male-female relationship around the world in its many, very different forms. The one region that I think we could learn something of possible value is the Nordic region.
They have developed a culture of what I will call youthful relationship experimentation, which is comfortable with the genders exploring each other sexually.
I am only guessing when I go any further, but it seems to lead to men finding some way in which to please the woman rather than the old school approach of most of the West to just not talk about it.
Don't get me wrong, I still think that Loving Coitus is the only answer that will completely satisfy the Human race but, if I am right about how the Nordic region approaches the problem, there may be a lot of good insights that could accelerate our move into an sentient, Human existence.
As I've said often, any form of mutual ecstasy is better than none. There is no doubt about that. The human race is only fooling itself as long as the female gender is cut off from the intimate joy of ecstasy. It hurts both genders to remain that way.
