Addendum
I keep trying to find some way to say it concisely, succinctly, and clearly. As I've said elsewhere, only a Human without all of the baggage would be able to understand in less than 300 characters. Let me try this, though.
Men have been selling themselves short since day one. They have been under-estimating and under-rating themselves. They cannot accept that coitus requires a Human finish to it. We aren't Human until humanity cleans it up. That has caused all of our worst problems.
Because of that unwelcome realization, they have developed an inferiority complex. Because of the inferiority complex, they take it out, especially, on women in the form of misogyny and worse. Even in mainstream society, the micro-aggressions cannot be ignored. They are a form of misogyny. Men also take it out on all of humanity. It is a chip on their shoulder that they could easily brush off, if they would only raise their heads and take a hard look. Coitus has been waiting for a sentient race to be polished.
Men have never gained their own self-respect. They have not learned to respect themselves. Women came with their self-respect in tact from day one. Women's self-respect only suffers from men's desire to recover what they have never allowed themselves to gain, their own self-respect. They try to blame it on women. But, they know better. They are sentient, also, whether they like it or not, whether they are yet willing to admit it or not.
I just hope this wraps it up in a nice neat bow for you.
Peeved
I've been studying the prehuman condition, once again, as we go mad, once again, as the polarization increases ad nauseam. For the umpteenth time in the last three millennia.
The polarization is invariably a two-way split. Each side has a point. One side says, "make nice, open your eyes". The other side says, "get tough, follow tradition." That's not the problem.
Under the constraints of prehumanity, both make sense. I lean to one side more than the other because it seems more Human, but both sides hold arguments that don't hold water.
Both sides begin going to extremes, shouting their less rational thoughts, start picking each other apart, and the madness breaks out. Push and shove and no one can ever figure out which one pushed first. One side says, "anything goes". The other side says, "clamp down". Both sides are wrong.
I won't even begin to pick apart the hidden agenda of the most mad representatives from both sides.
The most worrisome aspect is that each time we go down this road of madness, we lose sight of the big picture completely (like climate change; the environment, the many ways the whole human race is causing destruction of one sort or another) and get caught up in petty details in which a sane race would not indulge.
Worse yet, each time, the prehuman toys get more lethal. We have disaster encroaching on so many fronts that it boggles the mind because we remain whacked.
Yeah, I'm peeved. Both sides contribute to the problem. Both sides have their excuses. Both sides are, essentially, screaming about the same subject, though they will never admit it. It's not sex. It is the never-mentioned coitus. At the heart of it, if you peer close enough, all of the primary arguments stem from disagreement about coitus. Some are more masked, like toxic masculinity but, guess what?
Extrapolation
I am afraid that, for all that I've written about it, no one is yet extrapolating the real situation.
The derangement due to the unfinished state of coitus affects everything. Most of all, it affects every act of the male gender to some extent. In many cases, it affects it to a great, disastrous extent.
I don't want to get into details because, if you can't figure them out for yourself, you will never believe it.
Recap
This whole beginning piece, I guess, is my attempt at a recap. I am attempting to take the most salient points on specific topics that might still seem questionable to you and wrap them up in a nice little package. This particular one attempts to answer what changes when we become Human, not some foolish animal with too much brains? In general terms, I like the poem "Tone" myself. At first, it will just feel like a more harmonic tone.
The most germane points regarding becoming truly Human are 90% of the brain becoming available; 100% of the brain being less distracted; 100% of the roadblocks to thinking eliminated; emotional maturity, self-respect remaining in tact for a lifetime for the vast majority of Humanity; nothing to detract from the noble qualities becoming fulfilled; relationships that maintain the potential to last a lifetime; love like we have never experienced it before - both in relationships as well as the general case. Do I really need to add that it won't happen overnight? We have a lot of bad, messy baggage to be shed.
The big three are self-respect, clarity, and love.
Evolving document
This site is, now, much more like an evolving document than a timeline-based blog. The dates have never meant anything. If you are waiting for the next new entry to appear at the top of the list, you will be disappointed. You may, on occasion, see one added much nearer the end.
Timelines don't work when attempting to provide a coherent explanation to the madness that has existed for three millennia.
This is the story of what drove (pre)humanity mad for the last three millennia. It is not stream of consciousness. If you want that, if you want the raw thoughts (to some extent) as they come out of my head, you will need to find the links to the phantom sites. It will probably take some serious study of this site to begin.
I have become satisfied enough with this site as an introduction to the madness that prevents the human race from attaining its sentient state and how to make the change. The more detailed panorama is now slowly evolving. In this post and, maybe, a few others.
Do I move this, for instance, to the top? Does it help clarify? You tell me.
Any new insight snapshots, for now, are being dropped in Primer. They are minor insights that only take a paragraph or two. I'll do that until it gets too filled and unwieldy.
The big picture is absolutely clear to me on this site and, I think, written in such a way that anyone seeking surcease of the madness will be able to make their way through. The rest, like this, is just finishing touches.
My biggest struggle has been penetrating the stupour that is built on feelings of guilt, shame, and betrayal. All of which are remnants of the stupour of the animal that we were.
Other than Primer, it is mostly just tweaks. Right now, most of those have to do with Explanations. I have been remiss in explaining, as clearly as I would like, how men get themselves out of the mess they made of human life because I have been concentrating on explaining how the human race got us all into the mess.
There's enough there already. It just sounds kinda torturous and I hope it doesn't put any men off. It's just complicated to understand. Not to execute. A generation from now, it should be fully comprehended by any male before he hits puberty. Then, we really begin to change, as men comprehend that succeeding at making Loving Coitus is natural - for a sentient race. It will become easier as men realize they can succeed. That is sex education. That is what the class should be about.
Change
I was just remembering being on what Apple offensively calls a community (very third Reich of them) while I was writing my first book.
I made the claim that I was writing a book that would change the world. Of course, there were a lot of smart-ass remarks.
That's the thing. We have been so trained to not expect to become anything more than a worthless pack of hyenas that we reject the idea of changing the world as the knee-jerk reaction.
Surprise! For me, also. This will change the world. Sooner or later. Whether it's these words or someone later, it will change. It has to change or we remain the same stupoured, mad race.
The main topic on my mind today is how do I get through to you to make this happen now?
It is all up to men. If a woman wants to participate, it is best done by influencing individual men to learn how to love. Men that they can trust not to go bonkers. I would expect they are few and far between.
Openness
How do we finally open up about all of this? How does humanity confront its past failure?
My biggest fear is based on the fact that I learned all of this at such an advanced age. I cannot say for certain that a young man, full of vigor, can last as long as she desires. I cannot speak for a twenty year old, even though I am certain of the results. That is the main reason I would like to move on. I realized some years ago that I could not conclude this, on my own, in this life. It takes someone in the vigor of youth to prove that the vigor of youth can succeed. I cannot answer that, even though I know it will succeed. It is very frustrating.
It is going to be up to some young man to figure it out and make it clear that any young man can succeed at Loving Coitus without any concern for failure. I am too old to prove that, even though I did prove I could succeed at a later time in life.
Until then, until a few young men can succeed, I don't see how we move forward to openness. I'll get into that below.
I must say that it has to be a few young men that must succeed before we can turn the corner. Not just one.
Reminds me of Alice's Restaurant by Arlo Guthrie.
If one young man succeeds, that just proves that someone with a will and wit can succeed. A number of young men succeeding makes the general case.
This is a key point. Some men do succeed but the perception has become that there is something special about them. There is not, other than they are part of a sentient race.
It is very frustrating to me because there is plenty of proof all around that men can succeed.
So, how to move on to openness?
I guess it is easiest if I am right regarding men's ability to overcome their failure, to make coitus a consistently loving event, which I am so certain I am. There is so much circumstantial evidence, beyond my own aged success, that tells the tale. But, still, I have to consider the case that I am wrong until proven beyond a doubt elsewise (which tells you a lot about how I've approached this whole change-the-world thing).
What then, if I am wrong? At least, we have faced up to the situation and must discuss it openly. If some men's feelings are hurt, they will be witless to continue to disregard the truth. I am so sure it won't come to that but, if it does, it still needs to happen.
We still need to face the situation. We should never have been hiding from it.
Basically, I believe we now need to get there in a hurry. We are wrecking the planet due to the strutting of fools that have never faced and admitted their own failure.
It's really enough to make me furious. It is so clear that, being sentient, thinking, rational beings, there is no way that men should fail. Still, the proof is required. The avoidance of the subject, though, has to be at an end, one way or another. Men are already ashamed by their mad antics, so there's no change there, by exposing the source of their madness.
The evidence they can succeed is everywhere. We can control our bodies beyond anything an animal can do. We have never even tried to make coitus a consistently loving event because we can't talk about it openly. And, yet, there are men that succeed. Then, there is the masturbatory experience of the male. It can last a long, long time. There are more clues, as well, that I have gotten into throughout the books and in Explanations, to some extent.
It is not proven, until it is proven by a number young men that learn to make coitus a loving event and admit it. Aaaarrrrrgggghhhhh!
Do you have any idea how that was like a slap in my face? I realized I could not complete the riddle because of my age. That brought me perilously close to suicide for a period of years.
How do we become completely open about the subject of coitus and its precarious situation with regards to our sentient state of awareness?
This whole openness thing is going to be a bit tricky, I finally realize, though I guess I've known it all along. I just couldn't articulate it. No one is going to want to go through the isolation that I had to endure in order to clear their own heads. That is what all of this documentation is meant to prevent. One person going through the isolation is enough.
One is going to want to find allies, people that know the truth, admit it (everybody already knows the truth, really), and strive to make it part of The Great Narrative and it better be allies from both genders.
I was going to put the following in Explanations but I think it fits just as well here.
It is more like riding a bike than the other three examples that I usually use. Walking, talking, and writing are learned early in childhood.
Riding a bike is more of a consciously sentient act of working the muscles in a way that takes advanced training. I would use something later in life but I can't think of any that are common to the majority or takes more of the particular type of training that is required for men to succeed at Loving Coitus.
I guess there is one example that is closer. Part of the issue with controlling those muscles is the special case of the erotic sensations which are really nothing more than a ticklish sensation. That can be controlled, also. I learned that the hard way in my youth because of a cruel sister that loved to tickle to the point that it is painful. I turned off the ticklish sensation, so that I wouldn't react. It is similar to the idea that is always suggested for coitus. Think about baseball. That is essentially what is happening but it's not as willy-nilly as thinking about baseball while creating love. (i don't want to use "making love" to make a point)
Right now, most, if not all men, are totally unprepared for the failure that happens at puberty. Many run from it at breakneck speed, the rest just never ever talk about it, but 'grin and bear it' (another phrase I despise as prehuman that will never to be uttered by a true Human).
Currently, no adult is going to mention the fiasco to the young, so the youth (both genders, of course) go into puberty expecting so much more. Actually, I think we have turned that corner since I was young. Nowadays, for most, coitus is already suspect, though no one will ever admit it. That is a serious problem.
We have become so advanced that we finally sense the basic problem before or as we attain puberty. That is a bad thing because we sense nothing but the animal's take on the situation. The dual urges to seek ecstasy and procreate both remain, while the latter becomes more and more suspect because of its failure to fulfill the former for both participants.
It sucks. Especially when we do not even accept the obvious conclusion that coitus can and must change into a Human, sentient, loving act.
I hope you can see the foolish antics the situation creates. See Thinking It Through, if not.
It just extends the argument, as long as we don't open up about the situation.
It is the source of our madness.
Floodgates
As you will read, if you ever get to the two phantom sites, it has been like my mind's floodgates were opened fifteen years ago, once I realized the debacle that held us back. I have spent the last fifteen years scrambling to write down all of the insights and connected dots. It attacks us on all fronts and I have had to do the same. I had to write so many thoughts down to peruse further as they poured out of me. It made it difficult to be coherent.
Well, I'm past that, finally. They still come in bursts, like this burst, which includes a lot more than just this post.
On two fronts I have improved. I do not, any longer, need to go back and rewrite everything a hundred times (that is not an exaggeration). Basically, the rewrites were to piece together the flood of thoughts that came pouring out of me. Now, a quick second or third read and a few tweaks on phraseology and mis-types and I'm done.
The other, of course, is the flood of thoughts that I had to sort through. It is no longer a flood. Most of the gibberish of our past is gone from my thoughts to the extent that I am no longer influenced by the jabbering of the ape, the endless paradigms of nonsense handed down from Pavlov's Trained Dog.
The Narrative
The way the human narrative gets hijacked by authoritative voices with nothing behind it but malice has infuriated me from the beginning, fifteen years ago. Once I realized the boondoggle we've been on for three millennia, my rage began simmering.
Social 'media' brought mad narrative to new heights. Everyone found their authoritative voice to sound important. It's embarrassing when it amounts to gibberish.
The Human narrative is not about authoritative voices. It is about clarity. Anyone can contribute and, before it is over, no one will lead. Oh, sure, men will still take the lead in wooing a woman but that's different. Also, the way in which men woo will change radically, because they will change radically.
Maybe that is the big lesson, once the narrative begins to finally refute the lie that keeps the nonsense in motion.
The Third Age: Humanity
The first Age was Pre-Life, when rocks and water were about all there was on Earth. The Second Age was from Prehuman all the way back to the first single-celled creature. The differences between the two are minuscule compared to what's coming.
Now, it is time for the Third Age. It is time for Humanity.
From the first single-celled organism to yesterday's newspaper, there's little difference. The difference in clear understanding of what is going on is virtually nil. It is just monkeys jabbering away, making stuff up, until we face the truth that undermines our existence.
The prehuman has the senses and the sense, but they cannot use them yet.
Humans will be the first life form to seek clarity and that is the vast difference from the fumbling prehuman or the single-celled creature.
Humans can truly think, sense, and love. Humans don't accept the scraps left on the table by the witless animal. They know they are far more capable than the prehuman ever realized. They do not stumble along in the dark, never admitting to the darkness.
The most frustrating issue I face is that I know I will never get to see how it plays out. There is the slightest chance I will be present as we begin to accept what is missing from our humanity as it begins to enter the narrative, but I will certainly not live long enough to see precisely what happens once the male gender gains its self-respect in full.
I will not see how we go about life as a sane, sentient race. I have advocated for a mindset of reincarnation in this lifetime but, now, I have to pause.
Is that also just a necessary remnant of the miserable existence of the prehuman or is the mindset of reincarnation useful to the Human? Will a Human be so fulfilled in its lifetime that it will go to rest with no qualms? I can't see how we would completely avoid the desire to do it, again, once it is working right.
Just a few of so many questions that I will never see answered in this lifetime. Sigh. At least, I now know they will be answered.
So, I think that brings you up to date. If you are waiting with bated breath for the next timeline-dated post to appear at the top of the pile, cut it out.